I think he’s trying to say it’s irrational at best – a pale rationalization – but he’s being polite and assuming you think there is a connection between A and B (though you clearly don’t)
In case 1, if I turn off the lights
Maid comes: I save a few cents, but pay the maid (who I’d pay anyway) – I benefit
Maid doesn’t come: I save a buck and the maid’s fee (which I’d save anyway) – I benefit
If I leave the lights on:
Maid comes: I pay a few cents and the maid (who I’d pay anyway) – I lose a few cents
Maid doesn’t come: I pay a buck and the maid’s fee (which I’d save anyway) – I lose $1
Note the “anyway” in ALL cases. The maid and my electric bill are independent, and I know it, By mixing the issues, I’m just kidding myself. Rather than the maid’s absence “making up for” the extra electricity, that’s actually the worst scenario, where I lose the most compared to turning the light off. Rather than suffering any loss if the maid arrives and I’ve turned off the lights, I still come out ahead if I turn them off and behind if I don’t
What do you want, to justify turning the lights off? An ambassadorial appointment to the Island of Lusty Nymphos, Leave the lights on, and you lose – just as Daddy bellowed when you were five and left them on. Every. Freaking. Day. You only pretend there’s an issue, if you don’t want to turn off the lights anyway.
You can call it “conflating two issues” or “assuming a (magical) relation”, but it’s just plain laziness. Turn the light off, you bum! Walk to the switch and flick it! If grandpa saw you whining over it, he’d kick you right in your lap of luxury. maybe you’d feel differently if you made the candles from beeswax in your own hives, and wasting meant you has to sit in the dark all March and April. If you think “I’d have to walk ALL around the house” <moan> you probably need the exercise. Seriously. Decisions like that don’t occur in isolation.
Ditto the second example: Don’t blab secrets, you bum! What can you gain but a tiny “I knew something you didn’t” big shot moment. But apparently you want to do it, and that’s all that matters to you. Your friend could get the cold shoulder from your other friends (He was in town, but couldn’t be bothered to drop in and say ‘hi’?), but who cares about that. Not you. You can claim it’s really his fault for not showing up. And maybe it would be – but what does that have to do with your choices, you energy-wasting, friend betraying bum? What does it cost you to do the right thing? Don’t answer now – save it to recite to your lonely self when all your friends ditch you for betraying them all in turn
Folks do this all the time – unpleasant folks (which is all of us, at times, I guess) In case 1, you can only lose, in case 2, your friend can only lose. There’s no question here that a first grader couldn’t answer with a mouthful of peanut butter, but it’s not what you WANT, so you put a teddy on the sheep and say you’re warming it up in case Hal Briston comes over.
Who cares if he’d rather warm up his own sheep?