I know what you’re thinking - Enrique is a girl’s name!
I’m sure the teacher knows. Ask him/her.
“Only Stinky Boys Poop.”
I’m assuming that the whole class has been invited to this party, and that’s why your child is going to a party for someone he barely knows. I don’t think there is anything wrong with giving the teacher a call and asking. Or, when you call to RSVP (there was an RSVP number, right?) ask if there are any particular games/toys/ etc the child likes…or just be blunt and ask the Mom! Say, “I’m sorry, but I’m not sure which little angel is yours…is Jayme a girl or a boy?” Can you tell I’m fed up with moms who give cutesie names or spellings? She should know now that her child is confusing people!
Don’t the girls get to wear cute uniform jumpers, or skirts? Even as an option?
Or even better, ask your child to ask Jayme, or ask his friends! The child is too young to be offended by a classmate asking that question, and surely one of the classmates knows!
I remember being in about third grade and having a playmate named Whitney. Whitney was very boyish and I had assumed all along that she was a he. Until I said something one day “so what are you, a boy or a girl”? The question didn’t go over well and Whitney’s feelings were clearly hurt when she replied “I’m a GIRL”!
Whitney went on to become a quite butch lesbian.
So there’s a child called Herm Aphrodite - is this a boy’s or girl’s name? 
The Jayme I went to high school with was a guy. Still is, from what I’ve heard.
Teaching 5 year olds involves huge amounts of having the kids sit on the floor, scoot around, climb on things-- activities for which a skirt or dress would be wildly inappropriate, if only for the reason that it doesn’t protect the knees and gets caught on things (leaving out that there’s almost no way to sit on the floor without showing your panties to everyone, especially if you’re a kid and not-showing-panties is NOT your top priority).
I vote crayons or other art supplies, as far as the gift.
I think it’s a girl. For some reason I’ve found that parents will often be much quicker to adopt an unusual spelling for a girl. In my experience boys names generally get spelled in traditional ways.
Of my current circle of friends, the most popular girl’s name is Caitlin – spelled at least six different ways. OTOH, the most popular boy’s name is William – always spelled William.
Just my own personal experience.
Dem links is broked.
Better yet, get the potty-training book that the Griffins bought for Chris.
Then, beat the parents over their heads for screwing up their kid’s documentation life forever.
Now here I don’t see how spelling it “Jamie” would have helped at all. I have known Jamies of both sexes, too.
For some reason this reminded me of a '70s book about a kid whose parents decided not to reveal the kid’s sex, on account of all the rampant sexism. Yeah, how would it be if we just didn’t know, that kind of thing. This was back in the Free To Be You and Me days.
So here’s another vote for a non-gender thing like a puzzle or a book, wrapped in any color paper except pink.
Don’t know if you were addressing me, but I didn’t mean that spelling the kid’s name Jamie would help people figure out his/her gender. Spelling it in a standard way would help him/her not have to spend half of his waking life correcting the spelling of his name on nurse’s slips, contracts, tax forms, applications…
Maybe even avoid blue (the traditional boy’s color as I see it).
Why is she carrying a tree?
That ain’t a tree. It’s got veins and a nutsac.
I’ve just never seen one that big, I don’t think. There’s a guy at work with a prosthetic leg that isn’t nearly that big. Babe Ruth’s bat looks lighter than her…implement.
I have this problem with my son’s friends Charlie and Charlie. One is a boy, one a girl.
Has no one mentioned the obvious solution of you asking your son? Is he able to tell you?
Well, I thought my joke was funny…
My wife happened to speak to Jayme’s father today. Apparently he gets questioned about the child’s gender frequently. When my wife asked “What sort of things does Jayme like?” he replied “My daughter’s a bit of a tomboy…”
I thought that was a pretty good answer, saving my wife the embarassment of having to guess or coming right out and asking if Jayme was a boy or girl. So puzzles and coloring books it is.
Thanks everyone.
Good for Jayme’s dad. Some parents would have been jerks about it, I’d imagine. Both he and your wife handled the situation very well.
I was in kindergarten in 1962. We girls were not allowed to wear pants to school at all, unless (and this didn’t happen until I was in junior high) the temperature dropped below 20 degrees. Didn’t get to wear pants to school on a regular basis until 1972 or so. Survived the sitting on the floor thing, scooting around, climbing on things quite nicely, thank you, with no inappropriate showing of the panties. Our skirts were fairly long back then…knee-length…and we sat cross-legged, and still maintained our dignity. So it can be done, as generations upon generations have proven!
I’m glad you found such an elegant solution to the problem. I often wonder if some parents have second thoughts about their choice of name after they discover the hassle of always correcting gender or spelling or pronunciation. I have encountered a few dads who seem to not be thrilled with the hassle, but I always got the feeling that their feelings about the subject were not given any consideration by the mom-to-be. I had a dad once pull out a piece of paper with his child’s name printed on it, because he could not remember the unusual spelling the mother had created. He shook his head and gave a deep sigh when I mispronounced it, and gently but sadly corrected me. The child was less than a year old at that time…he has a lot of sighing and correcting to do in the years to come.