There’s a kid in my son’s kindergarten class, that no one knows if it’s a boy or girl. The kids name is pronounced like Jamie (Jay-me), but it’s spelled Jayme.
Is that a boy’s spelling or a girl’s spelling?
The thing is, my son was invited to Jayme’s birthday party at the bowling alley later in the month, and my wife has no idea whether to shop for a boy or a girl. She said it’ll be too late at that point if she waits to see the cake to figure out the gender (for example, maybe a princess cake would mean Jayme’s a girl, a fire truck would mean Jayme’s a boy. I told her that the cake’s probably going to be an “It’s Pat!” cake).
What do you think? Is Jayme a boy’s spelling or a girl’s spelling? Jayme does not to be ethnic (i.e. not Hispanic, not Asian, not *whatever-*American), as far as I can tell, but I’ve only seen him or her from a distance.
Unfortunately with that name, no matter how it’s spelled, there just ain’t no telling. I’m guessing your son doesn’t know the answer … what about the teacher?
We always get books, too. Another good idea that everyone likes is one of Sandra Boynton’s book/CD sets. There’s a new one called Dog Train, that features, among other things, a duet between Kate Winslet and Weird Al Yankovic.
If no one can tell if he/she is a boy or girl, chances are he/she isn’t gonna like a traditional “girly” or “boyish” gift anyway. Go for something gender neutral liek other Dopers have suggested. A book or a game.
My money’s on a tomboyish girl. I have a gender neutral name, was a huge tomboy as a kid, adn was frequently referred to as “son”.
My friend Jayme is a really hot chick. Don’t know any others, so I’d guess girl.
The more important question for gifts however is always age. Most gifts, toys and games included, are played and enjoyed by members of both sexes no matter the intended target.
Your son can’t figure out if Jayme is a boy or a girl?
Huh?
You could always ask the teacher, but surely there are clues. Personally, I plump for girl, with the Y in the name.
Long hair, something pink or conventionally “feminine”–like a purple coat or sparkly footwear. How about primary colors or a preponderance of navy blue and green clothes–those say “boy”. What about the invitation? Is it pink or blue or “neutral”? *
Surely someone in the classroom has referred to this child in the (forgot what its called) mode–as in, “he” or “she” or “his” or hers".
Heck, folks, it’s January-school’s been in for how long? Barring a hermaphrodite or similiar, the child’s gender is known. I can’t believe that there are no clues as to gender given off by this kid in the classroom or by the parents.
*just positing conventional social practices, don’t mean to endorse them one way or another.
I did a Google Image search on the word Jayme and got back more than a few pictures of hot chicks, so I’m leaning in that direction as well. (Is your friend any one of them, PsychoWench?)
My son is 5. He won’t even let me in the bathroom because “his peeper is private,” so I doub’t he’s playing games of “show me yours I’ll show you mine.” If he IS, well, you’ll be reading more about this as I sue the ass off the school district for allowing it to happen.
When we see the teacher, it’s for conferences and school functions. I can honestly say it has not occured to us to question Jayme’s gender at these meetings.
They wear uniforms, so all the kids have on khaki pants and either a blue, maroon, or white golf shirt and/or sewatshirt. Again, they’re 5, so there’s not much in the way of skirts, lipstick, etc. Jayme’s hair is midlength. I’ve seen girls with shorter, and boys with longer.
Also, my son is in a different section of the classroom, so he doesn’t really hear him or her references. We never hear them, never being there during class times.
I think we’re just going to go a head and get some books and stuff as suggested. Gender neutral.
You can always buy little Jayme a [url=http://www.musicspacekids.com/category.asp?beFreeSourceID=&catalog%5Fname=MusicSpace2&category%5Fname=Kidz+Bop&Page=0]Kidz Bop[/ur/] CD.
Not to bleed my lil’ ole heart all over the place, but personally, I’d give the kid something cool, regardless of what gender they were. Like little kids don’t get enough gender-specific bullshit from everywhere anyway.
