Background information: One of my sisters emigrated to Australia in 1968. I was eight years old at the time. In the intervening years I’ve gone to visit her once and she’s come to visit us three times. We keep in touch at Christmas, and occasionally at other times. I have four other siblings who all keep in touch with her on the same basis. They live too far away to visit me much, and we keep in touch mostly by email once every week or two. Despite that we are all very close – we just don’t feel that it matters if a week or two passes by without getting in touch.
Today I had the following conversation:
Person: Have you spoken to your sister in Australia today?
Me: No… I wouldn’t normally expect to.
P: I don’t mean on the telephone, I meant by email.
Me: No. It’s a couple of weeks since I was in contact.
P: Don’t you email her every day?
P: Why not?
Me: Well, out of sight, out of mind, I suppose.
P: Don’t you care about her?
Me (getting a bit annoyed): Of course I do! We just don’t feel the need to live in each other’s pockets.
P: Don’t you think that’s sad?
Me: No. We don’t need that sort of constant contact.
Is this person being reasonable? She made me feel like a heartless toad. My attitude is that you’re bound to grow apart a little in 40 years.