Okay, fair enough. It’s probably better to be safe. I do think that, as JackofHearts points out, we have to be careful to actually apply the word “rape” more…well, carefully. If everything is rape, then where are we?
I feel like I’ve had sex under situations where I didn’t want to (or in some cases, really didn’t want to), but I still consented. But in one of those cases, I’d just refer to it as manipulation/coercion, but definitely not rape. I felt really bad afterwards, maybe in some ways “violated,” but legally and practically, what happened to me wasn’t rape since I did consent.