Actual military stuff complies to Mil-Spec standards. But the more generic term “military grade” is an actual thing.
For example, integrated circuits come in 3 different grades: consumer grade, industrial grade, and military grade. Consumer grade has an operating range of 0 to 70 deg C. Industrial has an operating range of -40 to 85 deg C. And military grade has an operating range of -55 to 125 deg C.
Most of the “military grade” cell phones that I have seen don’t actually claim to conform to any specific Mil-Spec standard. Instead, they’ll conform to something like IP67, which means that they are dustproof and waterproof. To claim conformance to the spec, the cell phone can’t have any ingress of dust during an 8 hour test (time may vary depending on air flow), and has to be completely waterproof when tested at a depth of 1 meter for 30 minutes. An IP69 phone would be similar, except that it has to tolerate actually being sprayed with high pressure water from multiple angles instead of just being dunked for 30 minutes.
Technically though, IP67 is an IEC standard. It’s not a Mil-Spec standard. There probably is an equivalent Mil-Spec standard, though it might be slightly more strict in some areas which is why manufacturers support the IEC standard instead.
That’s mostly because of the added time and effort it takes to radiation-harden the processor. The 8086 that @iiandyiiii mentioned isn’t an off-the-shelf 8086 made by Intel. It’s a special radiation-hardened version that took years and oodles of money to develop.
No, but when I worked in the defense industry, we had absolutely no problem designing a completely new custom chip and paying out the wazoo to have a few thousand of them made. Civilian companies are much more concerned about the bottom line and wouldn’t dare do that unless they had a good financial reason to do so.
A lot of the things we were doing were bleeding edge. My security clearance wouldn’t even let me into the area where they were developing the synthetic aperture RADAR antennas. We had two distinct customers, military and civilian. The bleeding edge stuff was only for the military. The civilian versions of things (like the F4 phantom that we were selling to the Japanese) was only permitted to have last generation technology. F-16s for foreign sales only got the older analog signal processors. Only the military got the high-tech digital processors.
When you are designing something like a fighter jet, you don’t design with current technology. You make guesses about what technology is going to become available and design for that. Your enemies are doing the same, so if you design with what you currently have, your stuff will be years behind the bad guys stuff. Guess wrong about what will be available when, and that part of your project is over budget and behind schedule. But that’s how military development works. In contrast, civilian development is significantly more focused on the bottom line.
On one project I worked on, we got a brand new CPU chip that wasn’t available to the civilian market yet. It came on a development board so that we could start writing software for it. The actual chip wouldn’t be in production until part-way through our development cycle, and the civilian version wouldn’t come out until well after that. The government has deep pockets and is more than willing to pay out the wazoo in a way that most civilian companies aren’t. We got the chip first because we were willing to pay for it. I think Apple was the second customer to get the chip. They also paid out the wazoo to get ahead of other computer manufacturers.
Of course there are some civilian companies like Boeing’s aerospace division that are also on the bleeding edge, and they can also pay out the wazoo for things because ultimately it’s the government that is footing the bill.
Everything that I have worked on in the civilian world has been nowhere close to the bleeding edge. We’ve always designed with what we have currently available. That 10-15 year rule isn’t an absolute, but it’s definitely describing how a lot of things work.