Er… Vita Beata, the OP is in Australia. Signing up for temp work in the US is probably not the first choice on the list for solving his problems.
Broomstick, Yes, I did read that Imasquare is in Australia … but I’m thinking there are most likely temp agencies to be found there as well. Is that not a good assumption? Apologies to Imasquare if I’m giving bad advice.
Broomstick, A Google search does show plenty of temp agencies for Sydney Australia, so here’s hoping a few are located in close proximity to where Imasquare is.
The following are some matters that caused my BIL to complain to my sister when I visited her. I’m talking about a visit that lasted for just 2 or 3 hours. He complained to her behind my back but smiled at me and welcomed me to my face.
Do you engage in any habits that they might consider objectionable? Specifically, drinking, smoking, any form of drug usage? (even extremely mild usage, including prescription drugs).
Have you had any interaction with their children that they could view as objectionable? Even though you can’t imagine it being objectionable?
Are the hours you keep markedly different from theirs? Would that create a source of conflict for them or their children?
Do you clean up after yourself? One of the most common reasons why a houseguest wears out their welcome is because they leave dirty dishes for the lady of the house to clean up. Substitute “dirty dishes” for “dirty laundry” or just about anything else that would require your sister to clean up.
Basically, do you do anything that causes your sister to do any work that she would not have to do if you weren’t there?
Finally, have you broken anything in their home? Have they complained to you about anything that you’ve done that cost them money or caused them any extra work? Any reason at all that would cause them to resent your presence?
Aren’t those benefits extremely limited? Don’t they only run for a few weeks or months?
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No, it isn’t.
It’s treatable much as all anxiety issues are, with a combination of medication and CBT, the details and proportions of which will need to be worked out with medical professionals. “Easily treatable” doesn’t mean “easily cured”, but there exist a number of well known and commonly effective treatments. If the OP has access to these treatments, and hasn’t tried them, that should be something he does as soon as is practical. I don’t know enough about the Australian health care system to know how soon that will be, but if it’s more like the UK (where I’m currently receiving treatment for anxiety, among other things) it should be quick and cheap/free.
Hi there, I really do not have any advice that has already been given. I just want you to know, I feel for you. I was once homeless and hungry in my late teens. Only a few months, but that experience has scarred me. I really hope you can find some help. I wish there were something I could do for you, but know you are in my thoughts. I wish you all the best.
OP, while I’m not religious myself I do know that a number of them work with people who are down on their luck. They can easily find you a small room or apartment to live although it’s not going to be as familiar as your current surroundings. You should contact them ASAP.
Also, I’m curious as well as at what you have been doing with your money. If you experience social anxiety and you live in a nation which pays for health care as well as living in your sister’s home, you should have been able to save a considerable amount of money. Even with a low wage job, you should have been to save at least enough to pay the rent at an apartment for 3-6 months, if not more. Where has your money been going?
Look…your sister doesn’t have to allow you to live in her home. That she has for the length of time that she did is an indicator that she cares for you. Now you have to begin to care for yourself. Sorry if that sounds cold, but at least she didn’t toss you out in the streets.
Australia is known for having families with multiple generations on the dole, never having worked all their lives. It was that way when I was living there.
Not in Australia mate, you can stay on the dole for years.
Also you should probably qualify for a redundancy payment if your job is being made redundant which it sounds like it is. Speak to the workplace ombudsmen or a job counselling service, this is about 4 - 6 weeks pay per year of service for most people (depends on award or if you are an employee or contractor)
$300 a week plus rent assistance, free medical, cheap public transport etc could easily get you a nice room somewhere. Get down to Centrelink mate and look at all options, there are tons out there and there are really no reasons that you should be homeless for extended period unless that is your desire. If we can find places for drugged up single parents they should be able to help you.
The issue of mental illness is the big thing here, see your doctor and you can get a referral to psychologist for 12 FREE visits and this can be extended if required. Best thing I ever did!
Oh and your sister has asked for a timeline, she hasn’t kicked you out now. Ask if she can help you with Centrelink to help you with the whole anxiety thing, if she can’t get down to salvos or similar.
Shit mate it sucks but it’s life.
Yep very small amounts but they do exist.
I’m already being treated for the social phobia. The drug prescribed to me helps enough to allow me to function and I will be able to attend interviews. But I still can’t bring myself to apply by phone when I see a suitable job advertised. So it’s email applications only for me.
I want to avoid a Disability Pension if I can. There’s a lot of negative reactions toward people on disability especially if it’s due to a mental illness.
Really? What are you confused about then?
They don’t know that I have no place to go and they won’t. I do not want to impose on them any longer if they feel uncomfortable having me there and I don’t want them to feel guilty about it either.
You are correct in my not having any money. I have been propping up the only friends I have for the last few years. When my income stops and I can no longer help them they will lose their business and their home. They made a really big mistake by cheating the tax man a few years ago and it has cost them their original business and over $20 million dollars in assets. But they are my friends and I wanted to try and keep them going. That’s where my money has been going.
I am trying to get another job. I am applying but obviously there are other candidates who are not still cutting code in their 50s and who will be able to sell themselves better in an interview. I will certainly find another job but not in time to avoid my friends being bankrupted or me being temporarily homeless.
I don’t have imaginary phobias. That is a very ignorant, judgemental thing to say. Do some research.
I’ve often read that it’s easily treatable but in my case it has not been so. I was prescribed an antidepressant called Parnate three years ago that has alleviated the symptoms quite a lot but it’s not a cure. On medication I am merely very affected rather than severely.
I have tried many other medications and various types of talk therapy in the past with no results.
Thank you. You are a kind person.
Thanks Vita Beata. It is good advice.
I go out of my way not to be a nuisance to them. I don’t drink or smoke. I do take prescription meds for hypertension and anti-depressants but they take meds for hyper-tension and their son who is moving home takes anti-depressants.
I’m not actually there very much. It’s a 2 hour commute each direction to work so I leave at 7 am and don’t arrive home again until 8:30 pm. Then I’m in bed an hour later.