Someone who doesn’t want to help themselves cannot be helped by others. Why did you start this thread if all you’re going to do is shit on everyone’s suggestions?
I haven’t shit on everyone’s suggestions. Read some of my other replies to those who have been helpful without being judgemental. I have given credit and thanks where it’s due.
Square, the way I see it is ok you made some bad choices. That is something we all have done. All this picking at the causes doesn’t help the now. Make a game plan, write down your options, phone numbers, and ideas… The next part is to act on your plan. Just because you go on disability doesn’t mean you stay on it. Just because today something seems insurmountable doesn’t mean it will be tomorrow or next week. Don’t discount any idea that may be the leg up you need short term… Keep looking for a job and once you have your basic needs met- housing, food, money, safety, treatment for your social phobia. THEN sit down and look at what happened to put you where you were so it doesn’t happen again. You will be in a much better state of mind to look at things objectively when you aren’t worrying about food, safety, etc… As far as the doubters, and critics take with you what helps and let the rest go. It never ceases to amaze me how quickly people are to point fingers and drag others down. NONE of us are perfect. If it’s ok with you I would like to pray for you. You can do this and you are not alone. Take care of yourself.
Thanks for your advice, it is much appreciated. I now have somewhere to live so I’m concentrating on looking for a new job now. So things aren’t as dire as they seemed a few days ago.
I’m not a believer but have no problem with you praying for me, I appreciate the gesture and who knows I might be wrong about the existence of God.
I think a lot of the criticism comes from people not being able to comprehend what social phobia is like. If you don’t have it it’s hard to imagine the implications.
I think most of the criticism comes from you being more concerned about keeping your tax-evading friends solvent than a roof over your own head. I don’t see where social phobia factors into that.
Yes, the complete disregard for his own needs is indicative of co-dependence. Which can be comorbid with social anxiety, but isn’t the same thing.