So you have had two highly emotional losses, the loss of your wife and the loss of alcohol in the very recent past. And yes, losing alcohol is an emotional loss, at least if you are an alcoholic like me.
And you are thinking of dating?
I would gently suggest that you need to process your losses and ensure that you are emotionally healthy enough to be in a relationship before even thinking of dating. For me, when I quit drinking, it took a little over a year. But I also didn’t have the added loss that you recently experienced.
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I don’t even think about it. I never really liked alcohol. Drinking was for when I was bored and depressed. I’m neither these days.
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If you had the DTs when you quit drinking, you had to be bored and depressed for a long time. IIRC, you quit drinking rather recently, is that correct?
FTR, I start shopping a LONG time before I even take a test drive, much less buy. Indecision, thy name is dropzone. But I wanted to let her know I’m interested, and to test the waters with her. She knows I have things to work out.
I realize I’m late to this picnic and all the best cuts have already been eaten, but I just wanted to say that this is one of the classiest responses I have seen on this board. Very good show, sir. We could all learn from your behaviour.
You’ve come through a heck of a lot. I feel for the loneliness you have endured and the loss you have suffered, but I hope you will find growing joy in this new chapter of your life. Best of luck to you in your search for a couch buddy/squeeze/intellectual equal.
No further advice to add, and I haven’t been stalking the OP, but just wanted to say it’s great to see you posting in such a rational, coherent, and indeed entertaining and inspiring fashion. I don’t know you at all but I was concerned from some of your recent posts that you might not be around much longer yourself. Glad to see you seem to have come out the other side. Good luck.
Oldest figured out the mood issue: My Prozac level finally matches my stress level. Apparently, this is how Normals are supposed to feel.
Friend and I will take in a movie in early August. The last time I asked out a woman who I wasn’t already involved with was in HS, and she brought her boyfriend.
FTR, several times during our marriage Wife said that, if she went first, I’d be married inside a month. Shows what she knew! It’ll be TWO months and it’s just a movie.
If I’m going to play the debonair man about town I need some new clothes, so I went to the Lardass Store and told the guy that I was tired of looking like a six-year-old wearing his daddy’s clothes. He told me I now wear a mumble-mumble waist, eight inches smaller than what I was wearing. Turns out he didn’t lie, though I dasn’t gain an ounce. A potential girlfriend and smaller clothes? What fun!
She’s having some health issues so it’s the friend zone, especially since we don’t hardly know each other. However, I “intrigue” her. I can’t imagine in what way I could be intriguing. Over-educated/under-employed? Mildly crazy in a couple ways, and working on a Grand Unified Insanity Theory? I dunno. Most people just think I’m a bit odd.
Date’s still on with less pressure on me. All I want is to sit and [del]talk[/del] listen and get to know her. And admire the angle of her mandible, which could cut glass. Er, in a very pretty way.
Yeah, it’s been a shitty year, but I’ve been uncharacteristically upbeat the past month or so. Upbeat enough that I made that impetuous move. Upbeat enough that my PT called me on my return to my normal crankiness this morning (it’s not my fault her trainee couldn’t wrap a leg if his life depended on it). Upbeat enough that my supervisor called me on it, too. I had to fake it 'til I made it, which I did.
Doing “dandy” was last week’s word. “Ducky” was the week before’s. Don’t have one for this week. “Faking it until I make it” is too long. I need to work on it.
