There is an interesting comparison going on in the hockey world right now with regards to the former junior hockey coach Graham James and former NHL star Theoren Fleury.
Fleury recently came ‘out" as a victim of sexual abuse, spanning several years, by his junior hockey coach, James. This came about several years after another former hockey player alleged that James had also abused him. I’ll admit to not being up enough on all the details to go into further details, but after James’ most recent conviction (he had been convicted and pardoned a few years ago) Fleury called out the government/criminal justice system as not doing enough to protect children from being abused. A Montreal journalist called Fleury hypocritical, because Fleury was actually one of 18 investors/financiers for the Calgary Hitmen junior hockey team during a time when James was the coach, before Fleury came out as a victim. In essence, the team was completely managed by James, but the journalist feels that Fleury also had a responsibility to protect young players from James.
As a victim, though, what Fleury went though, and the guilt and shame and the just-hope-it-goes-away and struggles to deny what happened to him… well, it’s unimaginable, what he must have gone through, and it’s less easy to condemn him for trying to support the one thing that made sense to him, hockey, even if it meant having James around. Fleury went through years of suffering and a cocaine and alcohol addiction that ruined his career and finances - he could barely take care of himself for a time, let alone be responsible for others.
It’s hard to blame him, because even though he knew what James was, he had real psychological barriers to prevent reporting it. Then again, there is some responsibility… he knew, so was in a position to do something..
You end up with a “blame the victim” argument, but in the end it comes down to this: Fleury did not have the resources as a kid/teenager to stop James or to adequately deal with what he suffered. I think others knew or suspected James of inappropriate behaviour…certainly his other victims did…and yet no one said or did anything. Had one person questioned what was going on at the time, so much more horrible stuff could have been avoided in the long run.
So I guess… the one thing I can think of that would make me maybe understand Paterno more would be if he, himself, were the victim of sexual assault and the trauma was too big for him to deal with. I guess it’s possible. But are we to assume that that’s the case for McQueary, his dad, the doctor, Curley, Schultz and everyone else involved in this whole sordid tale? So many people could have done something. So many people didn’t.
As for Hollywood: I don’t follow the stories, so other than my general outrage at “raping/sexually asssulting people is BAD” I can’t really comment on it more.