Dangerosa, thanks for your replies here. I think this is really interesting, and I think we’re going to see more gender-fluid kids like the ones you’ve described. And the whole (paraphrased) “some transwomen still act like the entitled dudes they’ve been acculturated to act like” thing is a real problem that I’ve seen, and I’m curious whether it’s something that trans activists are addressing within their community. (I mean, I spend a fair amount of time shutting my own damn mouth rather than speaking up, because I don’t want to do that shit, and everyone raised as male should be paying attention to their pernicious acculturation in this regard as well).
My hope is that we’ll reach a step where it’s considered, if not the default, at least normal and unremarkable for kids to go through a phase where they question their gender identity and make sure it’s right for them. Just like there are plenty of kids who try out same-sex sexuality to see if it’s right for them, and that’s not (or at least shouldn’t be) a big deal.
Anyway, what you’re seeing in your kid’s social groups is interesting, and I appreciate your sharing it.