Well sure, I have never tried to claim that this whole issue isn’t a big deal. It definitely is.
And yes, all recognition of rights that weren’t previously recognized does “require society to act in a certain way”. When we recognized women’s right to vote and run for office and so forth, we required society to count their votes and accept them as elected officials if they won elections, even though many members of society thought that was flat-out wrong. Now that we’ve recognized same-sex couples’ right to be legally married, we require society to accord same-sex spouses the same legal privileges that opposite-sex spouses have, even though plenty of people object to that requirement.
I have never tried to claim that the recognition of transgender rights is no big deal, or that it doesn’t “require society to act in a certain way” that a lot of people in society are uncomfortable with. And as I’ve been saying all along to you and monstro and others, I acknowledge that there are a number of possible compromises and negotiations and workarounds that might be implemented over time to reduce that discomfort.
But what I think is simply intrinsically unworkable, in both legal and practical terms, is your insistence that recognizing the rights of transgender people must be done without any compromises on issues that could potentially, and legitimately, make other people uncomfortable. I’ve seen more practicable suggestions in, for example, the ground rules proposed by monstro, which ISTM I largely agree with and think could work. But what you seem to be demanding is, AFAICT, more innately inconsistent. I don’t see any way you could ensure the protections you want for women’s spaces in a manner that would hold up as constitutional, and I haven’t seen you convincingly explain how you think that could work in practice.
Well, the exact same argument could be used against recognition of gay rights: if there’s no expectation that the authenticity of a homosexual orientation be verified by a 3rd party, the public is well within its rights to not tread homosexual orientation as real. If I think Adam and Steve aren’t “really” a homosexual couple but are just deluding themselves or faking a relationship, then I can deny them a marriage license.
That doesn’t sound like a good idea, and I don’t think it’s a good idea applied to transgender people either. Especially since, AFAICT, the overwhelming majority of people who identify as transgender are sincere about it, just as the overwhelming majority of people who identify as gay are.