But this is where the question-begging comes in. “Equality” in the law is defined in terms of equal treatment for similarly-situated people. All people with appropriate vision and qualifications enjoy the right to equal treatment in going for a pilot’s license. All those who don’t should be equally treated in being denied a license. You are trying to sneak in through the back door the notion that there is some free-floating definition of “equality” that contains within it a stealth jack-in-the-box revelation that there is no constitutionally distinguishable difference between “two men ‘marrying’” and “a man and a woman marrying,” while simultaneously allowing that there are distinguishable differences between “first cousins marrying” (unlawful) and “second cousins marrying” (lawful, somewhere). In other words, you are using repetition of “equality” as a mask for the fact that the law treats different people differently all the time, but that you’d like us to believe in one particular instance that such different treatment is ludicrous and bad, whereas in others it is among the allowable range of policy preferences. In so doing, you are making a perfectly acceptable argument from personal policy. Fine. Just don’t bring the Constitution into it and pretend that the Constitution is plainly, logically, and necessarily offended by treating homosexual couples differently from heterosexual couples, in terms of marriage benefits the state may choose to extend or withhold, but that the Constitution is not bothered at all by treating first cousins and second cousins differently – and that, to boot, anyone who couldn’t understand the pellucid constitutional grounds, in a rational basis inquiry, for the distinction you’d so blithely draw between the two cases could only be “playing dumb.”
Yep, I suspected that was where we were headed right quick. It’s actually a “contract between two people and [that small part of] society [that holds my enlightened views].”
And you cannot escape the inevitably elitist and sneering tenor of simply writing off that (possibly largish) part of society that quite probably wouldn’t support the “tripartite contract of couple and society” by simply saying that “society favors equality before the law; I define ‘equality before the law’ as necessarily including ‘gay marriage;’ thus society favors ‘gay marriage,’ or if it doesn’t, it is merely engaging in ‘cognitive dissonance.’”
Another way of putting this is that you do not win constitutional or moral battles by word-games. “Society agreed to equality before the law – but I fooled them good, because little did they know that based on my secret definition of equality, that also included ‘gay marriage!’” No – you are attributing to society a peculiar and individualistic definition of ‘equality before the law’ that society never signed on for when they (putatively) signed on for ‘equality before the law.’" Seriously, do you not understand how condescending is it to say that society (or substantial portions of it) “don’t recognize” that “SSM” “is entailed” by an amendment passed in 1865? They’re competent to “agree to” such a right (remember, we’re still positing the lovely consensual “tripartite contract”), but too freaking stupid to know that they’ve agreed to it?
If they don’t think they’ve agreed to that definition of equality before the law, then they haven’t.
Which still leaves you absolutely free to dispute them and disagree with them. It doesn’t leave you free to claim in any meaningful way any form of consensus-based “contract among homosexual couples and society,” if society or subsantial parts of it want no part of it.
Look, I realize that judicial activism, and using the Constitution as a battering ram to impose “rights” or prohibitions never before recognized, is an inherently elitist exercise. One is inevitably saying “I’m smarter and have a clearer vision of what ‘equality before the law’ means than the common ruck of man, or indeed than anyone who came before.” I can certainly understand the impulse to cloak this inherently-arrogant approach in the Kumbaya-ism of fictitious “contracts between a couple and society,” which society recognizes but somehow doesn’t recognize it recognizes, but . . . .
Doesn’t really wash. The better, more honest way is the straighforward one: “Nah. You people are bumpkins and your continued harping on the Constitution and precedent-based, majoritarian argumentation are ridiculous in a country full of unenlightened non-urban hicks whose religious beliefs I consider silly and contemptible vis a vis my own orthodoxies.”