Well, it’s not that big a deal to you. Other people would think not being able to have a pat of butter or a little cheese or a yogurt sauce or a dollop of sour cream or some ranch dressing with their meal was a much bigger deal than not having an alcoholic beverage. If someone like that were thinking about canceling a reservation over not being able to have milk and meat together absent any other issues, you’d think that was…weird, right? Maybe overly fixated on the whole dairy issue? That’s how people with different priorities from you look at people who would cancel a reservation over the hotel being dry.
That being said, there’s a line between thinking something is weird and overly fixated and accusing someone of being an addict–automatically jumping to the latter when someone says the former comes across as being a little over-defensive, and I can see how it would make someone think the lady doth protest too much when that happens.
I think the main point is that more than one person, and the OP, considered sneaking prohibited items into the B&B when they found out about it.
That’s irrelevent. Social situations usually encourage drinking. We are talking about a place that does not.
Then she could either do what she eventually did or cancel the reservation
It’s over the top because I used apple cider?
That depends. Are you sneaking in a king sized bed? If you considered that, I would say you have a problem
I am not the one who asked “Should I sneak it in anyway even when its prohibited?”
Turkish Delights are not addictive. They can be habit-forming, but as far as I know, nothing inside them contains an addictive chemical. Plus, eat too many in one sitting and you just get a stomachache. You don’t become dizzy and black out
That would be fine if I were the one who brought it up. However, I wasn’t the one considering sneaking booze into a place that forbids it because to do so otherwise would somehow impair the evening
Yes, it is obvious I have some anger over this issue but the burden was not mine to place. Maybe she should not be considering sneaking stuff in next time?
I would cancel the reservation.
That’s fine. I would find it strange too, and be a little annoyed. But I would have either canceled or gone without.
Thanks!
I think we’re going to have a good weekend; we’re going to leave here fairly early tomorrow, catch a matinee movie, check into the B&B, maybe “celebrate” before we go to dinner ;); then get dressed for dinner, go out have a nice meal; when we get back, we’ll have our champagne, have a nice long soak in the garden tub for two, and, uh, go to bed!
Hopefully, we’ll enjoy a nice leisurely home-cooked breakfast Sunday morning, complete with fresh coffee (if they didn’t allow caffeine, we’d have a real problem). . .a leisurely drive home, enjoying one another’s company.
Sounds good!
Being a property manager (which I am, by profession) is a lot like being a parent: it’s very difficult to get a day off! But I’m going to have one (barring emergencies: I will have my cell phone with me!), and I intend to enjoy it fully!
I’m surprising myself by answering in a similar fashion as the Pit thread awhile back about the mother who was required to come in the building and sign her kids out of school every day.
I’m all about respecting the rules and abiding by the regs someone sets for their private business, especially a small business like this one. Nevertheless, I’d sneak in the booze, make absolutely sure there was no trace of it, not be seen in the common areas with the smell of booze / slurred speech / other overt signs, even subtle ones, and scrupulously clean up after myself and take out the empties – I certainly wouldn’t leave or betray the evidence because that’s just a slap in the face to the hosts. But if I could do it with no indication to the hosts / owners, I would certainly do it. (and, as even sven mentioned above, giggle like a teenager in the process).
ETA: a rule against smoking is a different ballpark altogether; there’s absolutely no “sneaking” with that one so there’s no question about abiding by the policy.
First, let me say, best username/post combo of the thread!
Second, I agree: drinking moderate amounts of alcohol is in no way analogous with smoking. Smoking, even done in moderation, leaves a lingering odor which some people find offensive. Drinking moderately, under the guidelines you’ve set (and I intended from the start, were we to “sneak it in”) leaves no evidence.
Some have said (OK, not “some”, “one”, but you get the point) that consumption of alcohol can lead to breaking things/stumbling around/vomiting. Well, in the past oh, five years, times when I’ve broken things/stumbled/vomited, alcohol has played no role at all. Illness happens. Clumsiness happens (all too often to me; I stumbled on a crack in the sidewalk a week ago, on my way home from the bus stop at 7:30AM; fortunately, the “fat lip” I got has gone down considerably, to a point it’s not really even noticeable; the scrapes/scratches on my face have receded to a point where they’ll be easily covered with makeup to go out to dinner tomorrow night; the bruises I sustained on my legs in the region of the knees will be readily covered by my black pantyhose.At the time of that stumble, I was under the influence of nothing more potent than my morning coffee!)
Anyway, we have never drank (drunk? ) to the point of vomiting/breaking things/acting like asses when spending the night out of town. And spending the night out of town is something we’ve done probably an average of six nights a year since we’ve been married. . .so, a total of almost five months.
We’re probably not going to carry anything into the B&B with us any stronger than the champagne I already got the “go-ahead” on, but I will make it clear to the inn-keepers that I think this rule should be clear on their website.
Yeah, breaking the rules isn’t a suggestion I make lightly, to just anyone. One has got to be discreet, and of course, have a history of using alcohol responsibly. Not everyone could pull it off, because not everyone is responsible and respectful about the whole thing. If there’s no trace or indication given to the hosts/owners, I see no harm… but that’s a very big ‘If’, and I think it’s pretty important to remove all evidence.
You quite obviously have some very serious issues and are bringing a lot of baggage to the table. To me your responses in this thread haven’t been entirely rational, nor well thought thru but rather just a knee jerk “alcohol is teh eeeeevil” reactions. Which is a bit offensive to (I was gonna say some of us, but don’t wanna speak for others) me at least
hehe if I would have found out… i’ve had a similar situation happen at a convention once. i got ahold of a bunch of local friends, and left a large pile of collected empties from about 5 college students recycling bins strewn about my room with the half empty vodka bottle we always leave for the staff. If we had ben iformed of the policy before we traveled the 5 hours to the hotel i would have gotten another room, or made the hotel arrange for another room for the inconvienience. at the very least my friends and i would have cleaned the room like we usually did before we left. i hope that room smelled like stale beer for months.
and thinking about it that was the ONLY year that particular hotel decided to enforce that particular policy. A couple of the guys i kow actually DID take thier 900 dollars for the weekend, tell the hotel manager to stuff it, threatened to lawyer up if they even thought to charge a dime, and got a room across the street at a discount after explaining what happened.
I wouldn’t hope for that. After all. people who use the room after me would have to put up with that smell, and for all I know, some of them chose that particular establishment partly because of the “no alcohol” rule.
It’s just that, to me, (unlike with smoking, which lingers no matter what you do), there’s a big difference between doing it discreetly, and being an asshole about it. And if anyone, including me or my husband, happens to be acting like an asshole at a nice establishment, I’d hope for them to be shown the door!
As I posted somewhere upthread, I explained the tradition to the inn-keeper, and she agreed to let me bring a split of champagne in (a very small bottle; basically two glasses’ worth).
We went to the movies that afternoon, then checked into the B&B and changed for dinner. I’d bought a dress that showed off my legs. We went to a very nice steak-house for dinner where I got a NY Strip steak topped with lump crab meat. Yum!
We didn’t order dessert, as the inn-keeper had promised us fresh-baked cookies before bedtime. She had them waiting on a plate for us! So we had cookies, then went to our room.
I started filling the “garden tub for two” (she had warned me it would take a good half-hour), we toasted one another with the champagne that had chilled while we were gone. I drank all of mine, but he thought it was a little dry for his taste, so I took the rest of his into the garden tub with me! She also had a tray of individual chocolates on the night stand, so I had a couple of chocolates in the tub, too. Wow, a tub big enough to swim in, my second glass of champagne, and chocolates! Talk about decadent!
The bed was king-size and very comfortable. Quite nice.
Breakfast was fresh coffee with real cream, an egg served in an egg-cup, a huge Belgian waffle, sausage links, and something she called a “Breakfast Banana Split”; they were made in banana split boats, with the banana cut in half lining the sides, but were filled with French vanilla yogurt topped with berries, then whipped cream. Very tasty. Oh, and fresh orange juice, too.
) to the point of vomiting/breaking things/acting like asses when spending the night out of town. And spending the night out of town is something we’ve done probably an average of six nights a year since we’ve been married. . .so, a total of almost five months.