Are you saying you are a synesthete?
I’m another who has preferences opposite to the OP.
No, that’d be every uncooked tomato I’ve ever tasted all my life which covers a wide range of ripeness and freshness. They are all tasteless to me.
Just a thought, but are you perhaps not liking the taste of the skin?
I amnot a freak! I have brethren.
I can’t stand a raw or fresh tomato. I’m also very stingy when using herbs and spices. A little goes a long way for me. I wonder if it’s connected.
Great Og, man! I’ve just about finished a report on asparagus pee–those who generate odiferous urine after eating, those who don’t, those who can smell it, and those who can’t. Now you have to bring up something else. 
BTW, I love fresh tomatoes from the garden as do my parents and three siblings. But, I have one out of three kids who can’t stand them.
Nope. I’ve eaten them with and without skin. No significant difference in the dislike.
Getting to the genetics thing…I often wondered that. Both of my parents LOVED raw tomatoes, and stewed tomatoes, and big hunk sof tomatoes in pizza sauce. My mom said she’d take a shaker ofsalt out to the garden and go to town, but I HATE tomatoes. Like the OP, I can do gazpacho, salsa, SOME pasta dishes with red sauce, sun-dried tomatoes, catsup, verious other tomato-based foods. I feel similar about bananas. I sort of like them, I’ll eat them, mainly becasue I find them filling and a nice quick snack when I’m in a rush, but I prefer things made with or made out of bananas. My brother also hates tomatoes…maybe it’s like twins and skips a generation.
My son and I share the OP’s love-hate relationship w/ the tomato.
Good in things & with things, but not so much by themselves
And cilantro tastes soapy to me - but I’vel earned to enjoy the flavor.
When I was a kid, before I knew what cilantro was, I thought that all Mexican restaurants had problems rinsing their little salsa bowls. :smack:
And here I thought I was a freak of nature; I can’t eat fresh tomatoes, but I will eat tomato sauces (though if they have chunks of tomato I eat around those, and that goes for salsas and such as well). I don’t like ketchup, either. I wish I liked tomato. They’re so pretty. But I just can’t do it.
As a child (up until age 11 or 12 or so) I absolutely loathed tomato in all its forms.
The way in for me was to try raw tomato, as it seemed less concentrated and ‘nasty’ than any way of cooking it. So there was a period of several years where I could only stomach tomato if it was raw.
Either I’m weird or it’s you guys. I think it must be you guys.
This comes from a guy who spends his days hanging by his feet. 
Huh. It’s not just me. I also love cooked tomatoes and tomato sauce, and can’t stand raw ones. Even what I’ve been assured are really, really good raw ones.
I’m in this boat too–love almost all forms of cooked tomatoes, can’t stand raw or juice, can only eat salsa if the tomato is chopped finely enough to lose texture.
While I too know of no research on the genetics of tomato tasting, there can be no doubt that variations in taste (there’s a pun in there somewhere) can be genetically based. I recall a junior high science assignment that illustrated the incidence of simple recessive genetic traits. We were given strips of paper laced with a certain chemical and told to test a number of people by having them taste the paper. A fair sample would show 25 percent of the test subjects reporting a strong taste. (A horribly bitter taste; my brother was ready to knock my block off. I think I have a book that discusses this, but I moved a couple of years back and still can’t find half of my crap.)
Fresh tomatoes should be shot on sight.