Moderator comment:
monjb, you need to dial it back a bit. It’s against the rules to call someone an asshole in this forum–in fact anywhere on the SDMB other than the Pit. From the context, it isn’t 100% that you are actually addressing that epithet to specific posters in this thread, so I’m not officially “mod noting” you, or warning you. But I am reminding you to take it easy here.
Ah, ok.
Why is it that drunk drivers/alcoholics always incorrectly assume that everyone has driven drunk at one time or other?
She didn’t, she said you or someone you love. Hell, Second Stone knows hundreds of alcoholic drunk drivers, so that might mess up the averages.
IME, everyone has driven drunk at least once. People are very bad at judging how impaired they are.
Not me. I never have more than one beer. And if the wife and I are out to dinner, I nurse that one beer through dinner, easily an hour or more.
Why do you hate America? 
The comment was directed at me and it was a fair comment. I’m an a-hole. There is a general consensus in these parts and I agree with it. Not only have I never driven drunk, I’ve never been drunk. And in the 20 years I’ve been avoiding drunk driving cases (hey, I’ve actually taken two of them!) I have met hundreds of people with DUI and/or are admitted alcoholics.
Those of us who drive badly sober wish that the drunks would get themselves into a program like AA.
And yes, I have loved ones who have driven drunk. And they are alcoholics. Every last one of them. It usually takes quite a while before they will admit that to themselves and others.
I also know people who get drunk, get into cars and hurt people. They claim that don’t have a drinking problem and don’t drink to excess. They have been to jail. They are in denial.
Anybody who has driven drunk and hurt someone and served 1.5 years in prison is a felony drunk driver. An alcoholic. De Nile is not just a river in Egypt. He’s an alcoholic. I repeat, he is an alcoholic. He damn near killed someone (he wouldn’t have done 1.5 years in prison if that weren’t the case.) As long as he and the people around him do not take this matter seriously enough to get themselves to meetings and pretend that they do not have problems, it will happen again.
your so cool
[Moderator Note]Let’s take the discussion about the definition of “alcoholism” to another thread, o.k.?[/Moderator Note]
Did you consult a lawyer today as you said you would?
no the lawyer I am trying to talk to was out of town with another case.
Well, my fiancée did talk to his lawyer and he said it would be double jeopardy to charge him with anything other than a law-suite, since he had already been convicted for the crime. so thanks to all. You all had good advice. Again thanks!