What I have here is a letter I’m thinking to write to my daughter… I thought to put it in IMHO, but I think it’s a little more emotional than that… Thoughts and input are Welcome.
Hi, my darling, my beautiful daughter. Never in my wildest dreams did I think that any child of mine could grow to be so strong, faithful, loyal, willing, wise. My hat is off to you. A lot of folks would tell you that I made you who you are. I disagree. I think you have something inside of you that many folks would be envious of. I think that I was blessed to have your star fall inside of my lap. I thank God for giving you to me. I hope that I have in my struggles given you some things for you to take in your journey to adulthood. Looking at you now , it’s hard for me to see you as less than perfect.
I know we have an issue to talk about. Please forgive me, that I can’t talk to you about this face-to-face. Part of my problem is, I feel that you are so good and dutiful that you don’t’ deserve to feel pain. My fault . Sorry . I know that you and Jon are an issue to me. And you don’t deserve a bunch of dancing around the issue. I thought that maybe my putting my thoughts down on paper might help.
Here’s my thoughts. It’s not my place to tell you who you choose to be your friends. It might be my place to tell you when you might get in hot water over it, though. Not that you are any smarter than me, but I’m twice your age (ouch!).
I don’t know how much you are willing to put up with. No woman, judging another woman’s man, can. You are what you are, and you will live with what you deem is okay. That’s fine with me. But I am through with enabling him.
You know the last straw was the Playstation thing. Let me ask you, if I were dragged kicking and screaming from my house by the cops, would you expect him to say “Oh can I use the Xbox, since you won’t be using it?” I hope not. What he did to Jaime was cold blooded. There’s no two ways around it. And you know it.
Plus when Jaime called me, wanting to know where it was. And your brother said: “should I tell him where it is?” I said HELL yea. And Jaime told me he NEVER said Jon could borrow it. So that’s why I took it back to Jamie’s grandma’s.
And then Jon had the gall to ask me where it was. Well. I like Jon, I really do. But I wonder why he can’t hold a job. When he tells me he’s “too good for Burger King”. Dumbass, when you’re starving you’ll take ANYTHING.
OK, the gist of this is: I LOVE you. And I stand by you. But if you want to keep up a relationship with Jon, I hope you can reach and teach him. You had the benefit and glory of someone who CAN teach you. He didn’t. He’s a grown man, honey.
Is he grown enough for you ?
I love you… Mom.