Am I really going to be the first one to post this?
Lights have to be on, or the webcam quality will suck.
Lights have to be on for foreplay. I need to be able to see if I’m doin’ it rong. A table lamp is fine.
For the main event, on or off, either way.
A little bit of light goes a long way…
31, single
Light doesn’t matter. We’ve done it in everything from bright sunshine to total darkness . . . indoors or out. It’s all good.
It’s nice when the only light is coming from embers in the fireplace; or a nighttime thunderstorm with lots of lightning.
Gay male, 63.
25, male.
I prefer lights on; if I didn’t want to see them naked I wouldn’t be having sex with them. Honestly, though, I never thought much about the issue and none on of my (ex)girlfriends ever said anything about it.
If it’s raunchy fucking, lights on. If it’s romantic lovemaking or right before sleep sex, lights dim or off.
34, gay male
Doesn’t matter to me. Although, I’m now curious if the “lights off” people don’t have day time sex.
/male-36-gay
My bf bought me a huge rock for Valentine’s Day—it’s a gorgeous orange-y pink and it has a light inside; the perfect “night light”. A friend of his bored it out at his shop and wired it. I like to see him and he likes to see me, so lighting is important. He had commented his ex didn’t like to be naked or have the lights on, but I figured he’s seen what I look like and if he wants to hit that, he wants to hit that. I know I like to see what I’m getting.
Cyn, 46 F
You know how that reads the first time, right?
Lights on, for sure. I love to see the big smile and the big blush.
60, Male, hetero.
Definitely better with the lights on, in most cases.
On, but preferably not the overhead light. A lamp, or natural light. So light but soft light. Not that I can see anything with my glasses off anyway.
Although it’s been so long since I’ve done it in actual full darkness that I’m kind of intrigued by the idea.
Oh, yeah, and female, 30.
married female 48
the ipod alarm clock has that same blue light …
A nice romantic dim light, just enough to sort of see, but leave enough to the imagination is nice. Occasional blindfold/tie up is nice too. music - either soft and romantic or hard and driving for the mood of it all is great =)Tonight show/tv show not at all. Occasional fuck flick is ok for variety/ideas
Lights on is fine. Lights off is fine. Whatever. I prefer some light, but unless it’s daytime I’d rather not have it very bright. My attitude can best be summed up as: Oh, I’m going to have sex? Excellent!
Married to (and having sex with) the same person for 30 years . . .
I would prefer the subtle dimness of flickering candles. He prefers to see what he’s doing.
The compromise is that the lights are on full, but I get to keep my socks on.
Prefer the lights on, but I can live with the lights off also, since my eyes adjust after a few minutes. It’s just better when you can see what’s going on.
23MS
I’ll admit–lights off, please. As dark as it can be, please.
Yep–I’m fat and loathe my body. I’d like sex a lot more if I didn’t have to get naked for it.
I am not going to wait until darkness falls, though. If it’s in the daytime, we close the blinds.
And yes, I wish that I could just relax and enjoy it, after all, if he wants me, I can’t be the worse thing in the world.
Male here. I’m usually doing it during the daytime these days, so it’s a moot point. But I like dim lights at night. At least half of my former partners have liked the lights off though, usually because of body image issues that weren’t warranted in most cases. I acclimated them gradually to not worry about their bodies.
The sun may freckle your schmeckle.
Female, straight, coming up on 26.
And the “lights off” generally tends to be a body image thing, IMO.