My cousin is 5 years old, in kindergarten. His preschool teacher has suggested that he get tested for Asperger’s. I can’t really say how his social interaction is at school, but when he is at the playground or with others, he tends to play by himself. He interacts pretty well with adults. He picked up reading last year very quickly and is now reading considerably above kindergarten level. Here are some of the things that my aunt and uncle and I have been having trouble with.
He has serious screaming fits where he gets super-worked-up over a lot of things, like his toy cars being bumped or having to take his coat off when he gets home. He screams and whines in general more than his sister (who is 3), but when he gets in a real fit, there’s no stopping him. There’s no real way to get him to calm down. If you try to put him in his room, he throws things and yanks at the door to the point where we worry he will break it. He’s super-sensitive to changes in routine too, which can also cause these fits.
He also has listening issues. He says “What?” after almost everything anyone says. Sometimes it’s because he can’t hear, I’m sure, but I am not exaggerating when I say that he says it after almost EVERY single thing, no matter how loud and clear the statement or request is. This is the one that really bothers me.
He and his sister have started in with some sibling wars. She’s a wicked little pincher and hitter (which we’re trying to deal with) and he doesn’t retaliate much, but he yells and screams and takes her toys and doesn’t share well. Obviously sibling rivalry is normal, but is there anything that would be good to know in that area for a kid of his temperament?
Also, does anyone have any advice on testing for Asperger’s? My aunt and uncle have looked around the area, and the only doctor they could find told them that he could fit them in - and then promptly went on a two-year sabbatical or something. We live in New Hampshire.
I’m sure there’s more I could go on about, but I don’t want this to go to long.
Despite his quirks and issues, he’s a sweet little guy, and he actually reminds me a lot of myself when I was younger. I’ll probably still be living with my aunt and uncle for at least the next couple years, at least on breaks, so it would be nice to have some strategies to pass on to them that might help.
Any advice would be welcome. Thank you!