This perfectly describes Gini. One of my very first threads here was dedicated to her… antics.
I’m not going to revisit it, although in itself, it fits this discussion. Her alternating between an intense need for intimacy and a complete failure to commit fully were almost certainly caused by a traumatic childhood. But this doesn’t excuse the way she treats everyone around her, including me.
In the two years since we broke up, she has been… weird, and not in good way.
At first, we didn’t interact much after the break-up, but by November 2022, she was again coming to my office daily, texting me, speaking on the phone literally for hours, inviting me for coffee or dinner, asking me to go cycling with her as we had done when we were together. On New Year’s Eve that year, she kissed me on the cheek. I had the feeling that she was aiming for my mouth but only missed because I happened to suddenly look to the right at that exact moment. It felt as if it was the beginning of our relationship all over again, three years… and unfortunately many betrayals later.
It went on like this for a year and a half, until last January when she suddenly cut me off almost completely.
- Perhaps she regretted her decision to precipitate the break-up. I highly doubt it, but she was never great at honest communication ;
- Perhaps she wanted us to stay close friends but realized that we were still far too close ;
- Perhaps it was a power move to make me beg her to take me back, like her ex had done. She either gave up when she saw that it wasn’t happening, or has found another guy to toy with.
Knowing what a devious, self-centred, pathological liar she is, I’m leaning towards 3.