Did he ask you to share your faith, to explain it?
Did she ask him to make advances toward her? Why does he have the right to express his sexual interest to her, but she has none to express her religious views to him?
I believe that this is exactly where the man is supposed to say, “Fuck Off”.
( And exactly where she is supposed to swallow that And Do So. No Means No.)
Not what I said.
I’m a Christian but I only witness to people who ask. Because pushing my views on people makes me feel like an asshole and makes me look like one.
I also don’t think forcing your views down someone’s throat is very compelling. If someone asks me, they’re maybe open to it. If I do it unsolicited, I’m being a pest and it gives Christians a bad name.
Some people don’t accept the Bible as an authority, and to us that’s like saying “we are told to do so in the Odyssey”—you may believe it deeply, but it’s really not a compelling argument.
Come to think of it, I kind of like some of what people were told to do in the Odyssey.
You will find that most people find it presumptuous and even insulting - as you just found out.
Would you like to hear all about my beliefs in a religion that you obviously have no belief in, urging you to join up? Of course not.
You need to respect other people’s belief systems and not assume that yours is the right one. Yours is entirely what works for you. It is not factual. No one’s religion is factual. It is only a belief system, and you are way out of line pushing it on someone else unbidden.
I finally got my car into the dealership for a recall (parts had been unavailable for over a month), and I asked them to look into two other problems it’s been having, which I explained in detail. Two hours after they picked it up, I got a call saying it was all done and they were on their way back with it! Except, of course, they didn’t even check for the other problems. It’s going back again tomorrow.
I agree that he was totally being a jerk. But – not that this excuses his overreaction in any way – there is also value in trying to see it from the perspective of others. You said earlier that “Its a good thing to tell people the good news”. The “good news” stuff is pretty standard Christian proselytizing phraseology, but you know what it sounds like to me? Like telemarketing. Like the unwanted phone call that interrupts your dinner that goes, “Good news! You’ve been selected for our special offer …”. It’s a presumptuous intrusion on our time and privacy and no one wants that.
If your faith has brought you peace and joy, that’s a great thing. And it’s something you can share with those who are close to you. But with all respect, it’s usually best not to engage in religious telemarketing with casual acquaintances.
actually, I thought she did the witnessing thing to get the guy to leave her alone …because I knew an attractive girl who did that … if you didn’t take no for an answer or she wasn’t interested in the person she’d pop out these church tracts she’d collected and start a spiel…
it did backfire on her once as she met someone involved in said church who thought they’d found a compadre …
she admitted it was just an avoidance tactic and they had a good laugh and did hang out together occasionally
If I’m on a bus and someone starts telling me about god, I find another seat.
That was where I went when I read it. He wasn’t taking no for an answer and she went with the god spiel to dissuade him.
Actually, I thought maybe he’d be open to it. He had said all religions were good. I should’ve know not to upset him, as he’d told me before hes schizo affective and takes meds so he doesnt hear voices.
When I am not interested in a man, I tell them that upfront.
My brother has that diagnosis, that can be very difficult to deal with.
Though having schizoaffective disorder doesn’t have anything to do with whether or not you should upset someone. AFAIK, stress doesn’t bring on delusions or hallucinations, it’s purely a brain chemistry issue (as you pointed out this person takes medication to help). At most, if someone is in a depressed state (the disorder also includes bipolar symptoms) then they might be more easily upset than usual.
I’m not sure about that…OP has said that her only criteria for the men she has sex with is that they be Christian. I suspect she was just grooming him.
And that should be all it takes, but some people (men, women, or misc) don’t get that. Becoming unappealing is easier than getting a restraining order. Or even changing routines to avoid them.
Tomorrow is St. Patrick’s Day. As is my custom, I usually have one Guinness today ( the day before ). This year ( Ok, maybe it was out a few years ago, but follow along ) Guinness has out their normal Nitrogen can 4-pack for $9.99. It’s pricey, but it’s a thing so I buy a 4-pack. What I didn’t know is that with an almost identical design, they are selling ‘Coffee Infused Guinness’.
First of all, it’s important to note that lots of people like coffee… and that lots of people like Guinness. That said, almost no one I know would like to taste the pouring of one into the other. It is a horrible blend; one that I could only imagine would ever be used by bartenders trying to chase loud drunks out of their bar close to closing time. Or, if you want to end that coctail party in your home ( the one where no one is taking the hint to GTFO ) you could say, “Hey, let’s all have one last Guinness! Cheers! Slainte Mhath…!”
It’s guaranteed to leave them all spitting and holding their throats like Vampires that just chugged Holy Water. Honest-To-God, I wouldn’t serve this stuff to Stephen Colbert ( and I Hate that Son-of-a-Bitch ).
So please, drink responsibly! And make sure that can of Guinness doesn’t have the word “coffee” anywhere on it.
Thank You!
And now, a word from Liam Neeson…
You say this like it’s a bad thing.
It might almost be worth considering conversion to a religion that had such a commandment.
I have a new criteria now that I shouldve had all along, they have to marry me first.