Following on this thread, how many wedding rings do you have for your *current * marriage? If you have more than one, which one do you wear, and why?
cwPartner and I each have two. We have the cheap plain bands we bought at Service Merchandise when we decided that if we were going to get married, we should have rings. We also have the fancier rings that we had made later. We wear those most of the time, but cwPartner will swap them out before doing something that might mess up the new one.
I have two. They’re both yellow gold bands (I’m a guy) with white gold inlaid. The reason that I have two is that I gained a fair amount of weight after I got married :mad: (doesn’t everybody?) and my original got too tight. Since then, I’ve lost the weight and I’m back to the original. 
My wife just has one.
None.
Jewelry hasn’t been a big priority for us.
One each. The wife’s is a diamond solitare with a Bridgette mounting in white gold. Mine is a signet-style ring in white gold, with the date of our wedding around the edge in Roman numerals.
I guess I sort of have 3.
I have the white gold and diamond promise ring my husband gave me when he asked me to move in and share a life with him.
And my platinum engagement ring and the matching platinum and diamond wedding band.
I wanted my promise ring to be my wedding band, but the white gold looked too yellow next to the platinum, so I wear the promise ring on my right hand. My husband’s wedding band is white gold, not the same metal as my wedding rings, but the same metal as the promise ring that signified our initial betrothment.
One gold band. My engagement ring is a yellow gold trinity round diamond.
One white gold band for me. Mrs “Death Ray” has two wedding rings and two engagement rings. She has one engagement ring which is what I proposed with and is a sinlge diamond with a natural emerald on each side. It was given to me by my mother and was originally my great aunt’s 21st birthday present. When we got married we had a wedding band made to fit the contours of ring. Because it (the engagement ring) is old and has a fragile claw setting, Mrs DR is worried she’ll brake it so she has another everyday set to wear at work etc.
Two or three, depending how you look at it.
We got legally married in May 2004 at the local city office, and just before then we had finally got an engagement ring. It’s not a traditional ring, but a band of diamonds in an eternity setting. (The diamonds go all the way round, and each diamond is small, round and flat.) So the engagement ring was actually not worn during our engagement! So that’s wedding ring, and wedding, number one.
Then when we came to the actual ceremony in Japan, we ended up with no rings or ceremony because his family wanted us to do a Shinto ritual which we refused. In the end there was just a reception so as to avoid offence. That was in the July. Wedding number two.
Then finally, in December we had our British wedding with actual spoken vows. (In the Japanese city office you just hand the papers and cash over and wait in line with all the other people lining up to pay taxes or whatever.)
At that wedding we exchanged rings. Wedding number three, and rings number two and three!
I have two identical 2mm gold rings which go either side of the diamond ring to make a sandwich. My husband has a 2mm platinum/titanium mix.
In Japan most people have platinum for a wedding ring and when we made the mistake of mentioning that the eternity ring we were looking at was for an engagment ring, the woman in the shop whipped it away to replace it with pig ugly sticky uppy solitaire diamonds in platinum settings. I had to get nasty (literally) to get my lovely ring back!! I really wanted gold, as that’s what is usually used in England. I also hate high settings, as I wanted to wear the ring every single day, with no worries about catching it on anything. Hub wanted platinum but as his ring is so fine, the jeweller said he needed to have titanium in it to make it stronger. It has lasted very well.
Two. Plain gold wedding band that broke several times, on the goldsmith’s advice I retired it as it was just too brittle for the job. It now resides 24/7 on a gold chain around my neck. Its replacemen is a rather heavier white gold jobby. I like white gold, it appeals to my geekish liking for “interesting facts” (like how palladium is an even more effective gold-whitener than platinum), although I’m too old to go around imagining I might get sucked into The Land and make a much better job of it than miserable old Thomas Covenant.
We both have plain, platinum wedding bands and I have a platinum engagement ring with a yellow-gold setting for the diamond. My husband’s ring is 6mm, mine is 2mm (he has big hands, I have little ones).
We both wear our rings all the time.
I have an adorable little engagement and wedding set that we bought for $600 at Bally’s in Vegas. Mr. K doesn’t wear a ring. I’m not interested in upgrading my wedding set, but I hope he gives me an anniversary ring next year (the big 10). We’ve been together for 18 years, so I don’t feel it’s premature.
Which finger are you supposed to wear an anniversary ring on?
I still wear the one she put on my finger all those years ago.
She has two because she lost the original and I replaced it. Someone in our backyard found the first one several years later and since then she’s worn both on the same finger.
I personally have two.
One is my engagement ring, a vintage piece I love. I had a matching wedding ring made to fit up against it so I could wear them as a set. The jeweler did a very poor job–I hate the way the ring looks; I don’t think it matches. I couldn’t get a satisfactory resolution at the time, and was too emotionally involved to get it straightened out rationally. So I used my engagement ring as my wedding ring for the service, and have worn it as such ever since.
Therefore I have one ring on my finger, and one ring in a desk drawer that makes me feel blind rage every time I look at it.
My jeweler (not the one who botched the ring; the one who sells vintage jewelry) has gently suggested I trade up (when I’m in her shop admiring her rings but rue not having more fingers). I know people who have done that. However, I’m very sentimental about the ring and can’t imagine not wearing it.
My first band got lost when I was pregnant. I’d switched it from my ring finger to my pinkie, and it fell off while I was working in the garden, never to be seen again. So we bought an identical replacement.
My husband’s first was damaged when he wore it while welding, so we got him and identical second one, except I had our wedding date engraved inside it because he kept forgetting. He lost that ring on a business trip some years back. But after my dad died, my mom offered me my paternal grandfather’s wedding band - complete with the 1913 wedding date engraved inside. That’s what he’s been wearing ever since and he’s been very careful not to lose it.
Maybe we’ll get a new set for our 25th anniversary, maybe not.
Interesting question.
When we were married, I bought her the little matching band to the diamond I bought her. I got this really nice gold band with a kind of twisted/braided pattern in some kind of black on it. (I’m pretty technically literate when it comes to describing jewelry).
I stopped wearing it when I dropped about 25 pounds, and it didn’t fit well. Also, I was working at the time around a lot of metal-etching chemicals.
The Bus Kid, when she’s home works selling “fine” jewelry at Field’s here in the mall, and one day the wife saw a band there and said “oooooh” in tones that even I could decipher. It’s kind of a semi-twisted diamond/sapphire thing in platinum. NOTE: Damn, there’s an awesome markup on those things, I paid about 20% of retail with the kid’s discount.
She wears that on her right hand, and to celebrate, I bought myself a nice hammered-looking platinum band too that actually fits my fingers now.
So, 4.
We have three.
We got Puzzle Rings as wedding bands – they actually come apart (but remain linked), and can be a pain to re-assemble. When we got married we tied them with ribbons so that, if dropped, they wouldn’t come apart and delay the ceremony while we tried to get them back together. I got the four-band wide, and Pepper Mill got the six-band twist:
http://www.pepiandco.com/htmlversion/pzrings.htm
When Pepper Mill got pregnant her hands and feet swelled up a lot. She had, by her own admission, “Fred Flintstone feet”. It was actually starting to become painful. Her fingers were too swollen, even well after the delivery, to wear her ring, so I got her a slightly larger one in silver to wear until her finger was back to normal.
She now wears the original again, her finger eventually returning to its normal size, but she still has the silver ring.
You’re not wrong. My wife has worked in jewellery for a few years now and the markup is… remarkable to say the least.
I have three. The one I had when we got married was a white gold piece that doesn’t fit anymore since I lost a lot of weight while married.
I have a yellow gold band that I wore until I lost more weight and it no longer fit very well.
I have a plain white gold one that I wear all the time since it is at my current size.
I have one wedding ring, which was the wedding ring my father gave to my mother, and the ring my mother wore throughout her marriage to my father, until she remarried after my father died.
My husband has one wedding ring, which was the ring my mother gave to my father, which my father wore until his death.
Both are plain gold wedding bands, and are from that nice store on 5th Avenue that sells jewelry in pale blue boxes (Tiffany’s).
I have an engagement ring, which was the ring my husband’s father gave to his wife. I don’t wear it, because I don’t like a lot of jewelry. But I treasure it because it was part of my husband’s parents marriage, which was good and strong maggiage. We’d been engaged for about a week before we even thought about that that ‘diamond ring’ thing. I wore it during our engagement.
These rings mean a lot to us, because of their family history.
I have a plain gold band and an engagement ring. My engagement ring is a diamond band with five small stones, rather than a typical solitare.
I wear the band all the time and the engagement ring not so much. It gets dirty at work, so I only wear it sometimes.