materialistic whore

The BBQ Pit
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Some people, maybe depending on circumstances, think that it means more (because it’s more of a sacrifice for you) for you to spend money than to make effort. Of course there is something to be said for this line of reasoning. The only problem is of course that if you have a lot of money spending it is no big sacrifice, and also if you have nothing but time, it’s no problem to take a few hours and make a quilt.

If your cousin-in-law keeps spending if she rich, it may mean she’s not as good a parent. If she spends even though she’s poor, it could mean she values her children more. It probably also means she’s a dolt.

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Bwahaha! I am imagining wheeling a cart down the condiment aisle with a baby hanging by it’s mouth from a tit. That’s priceless.

I must say, you have started some very entertaining pit threads.

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Hey, if her answer to everything is to go out and buy something, maybe she can go buy some fucking manners.

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:eek: :o :o :o :o :eek:
OMG
Yes ,yes thats right I know how to sew, Im a crafty kind of guy. You got something to say? well then just let me put down my cross stitch and kick your ass. :stuck_out_tongue:

I love you too baby

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I think that it’s commendable (sp) in this day and time that a parent would consider that making a Halloween costume or making their children’s lunches.

It goes back to the roots of what parenthood is about.

You can’t always buy stuff in the store. Homemade things are made with love and care. Shoving out your credit card or whipping out a check book is not love, it’s that you have more important things to do with your time.

Now, making costumes or gifts with the family gets everyone involved with the process, as a family. A stupid $20 costume is not creative, it has no thought and it’s just something that gets thrown into the trash. Those costumes can become part of a memory chest for the kids to remember their childhood years while growing up.

As for the lunches. School lunches are NOT nutritious despite what the government says. No sireee. Grease and crap, crap and grease. A school lunch made by mom or dad says love and even though a lot of kids do the buying school lunches and your kids might feel weird now, when they are older they will remember the lunches mom and dad made for them when they grow old and say to themselves “WOW, I don’t know how mom/dad did that, they were so busy but took the time to make sure I had a good lunch.”

So screw your cousin. I commend you on your back-to-basics thinking. It’s too bad more and more people don’t go that route.

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Well, up until about a year ago she was dirt poor (IE food stamps, public housing, no job or desire to have one) but it still did not matter to her. Two years ago when she got a big tax return check(earned income credit), she spent about a thousand dollars on designer clothes for her daughter to go to preschool in. Now, at the beginning of this school year she called and said “If you think she dressed good to go to preschool, wait till you see her in kindergarden” To which skyblukat told her “well, some of my kids clothes came from the thrift store and if anyone makes fun of them because they dont have designer clothes on I’LL KICK THIER ASS” click
But ultimatly we do have the last laugh ALL of our kid are extreamly smart (unlike their father). The time that we have spent teaching, reading to ,and playing with our kids has really paid off. They couldnt ask for a better mother.

Oh, BTW kindergarden preadmission test results:

out of 100

her kid-- 64

our kid-- 99

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cool, never quoted myself before.

Anyways, the more I look at this last statement, the more I wish I had not written it. I know that she could be a better parent, but I kind of believe that her daughter has some learning problems, and probably needs some special help that her mother cant give her. And I would also like to say that even though she is a bitch sometimes I still love her, I just cant stand to be around her sometimes.

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That rule may have to do with food allergies. It seems like kids are so allergic to things today (nuts, wheat, eggs, milk, etc.), that the school board is just covering its ass. The teacher just wants to check the ingredients.

As a teacher, let me tell you, I respect the parents who actually make snacks for special occassions. I hate when it’s a child’s birthday and Mom shows up with store-bought cookies or cupcakes. The worst are the bakery cookies in the clear plastic container.
The kids never eat them; they smush them up and make a mess. Because they don’t taste good!

My mom always made our halloween costumes. I’ve made some of my kid’s costumes over the years; sometimes I buy the “base” of the costume and then fancy it up at home with my own touches.
My kids almost always take their lunch, because I make better lunches than they can buy. They will buy on pizza day, though. I get stuff from the deli (ham, roast beef, turkey) and actually make lunch, not just throw pre-packed fruit cups and potato chips in.

I can’t even touch the breastfeeding comment. That one is deserving of its own thread. What an idiot, SkybluKat! I have some relatives on my husband’s side like that. Very hard to deal with. One of his cousins was appalled that I nursed my kids. It was an attitude of “Why would you do that in this day and age?”
They’re also very materialistic. Everything has to be “store-bought.” I make pumpkin bread and banana bread and nut breads for Christmas, along with other “yummies” as gifts, and they think it’s “quaint” that I make things.
[Bragging] Most people think the treats I make are delicious[/Bragging] but hubby’s relatives often look at it as if I’d handed them a dead rat. Sheesh!

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OMG kinsey I think your husband and I may be related. :stuck_out_tongue:

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:stuck_out_tongue: I keep finding people who I might be related to on this board! And wring and I think we were married to the same guy!

As for the breastfeeding issue, I wonder if my hubby’s cousin is over on some other MB ranting about her cousin’s weird wife who actually nursed her kids! And makes their lunches! And, (get this) makes their Halloween costumes!
And SkyBluKat’s relatives are right there chiming in! She makes cupcakes! And makes their lunches!
:smiley:

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I’m just guessing, but it seems that your cousin has low self-esteem. But instead of having any kind of insight into herself, she’s just venting and taking it out on you.

When I got married, my husband’s mother baked and decorated our wedding cake. This was a hobby of hers and she offered and I would have NEVER turned her down. Our cake was lovely and quite delicious. Very moist. Not dry and stale-tasting like most store-bought cakes. My in-laws also could not afford to pay for the rehearsal dinner for our large wedding party, and instead asked if making home-made lasagna would be Ok. They hosted the party at their home and the dinner was delicious. We had a blast because it was relaxed and we could get at tipsy and be as loud as we pleased.

I can’t imagine your cousin’s attitude. Home-made is always better than store-bought if the person knows what he/she is doing.

May I ask: why do you even talk to this woman?

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Montessori rocks! It’s not for everyone, but most children would benefit, IMO. Homemade treats galore, and almost no frosting! No sugar-wired kids! (in fact, our daughter’s teacher was insistant on the little-or-no-frosting bit: Kids would eat the frosting and dump the rest of the treat)

There’s something about Montessori that brings out the creativity and dedication in the parents.

I’m suspecting the CIL in question is poorly-educated in the emotional sense. Still, that’s no excuse for dumping on someone else just for doing things differently.

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I think that her logic is “look, I can afford to do these things…can you?” YES!! We can afford it. We choose not to. We love our kids so much that we like to add our little special touches to everything. I am not the queen of home-ec.(Actually I failed home-ec.)But I do like to show our kids(and everyone else for that matter) just how much we love them. Now, dont get me wrong.If someone decideds to buy everything for their kids…GREAT! GO for it. Just please dont try to make me feel like shit because I choose to put a little more effort into it.

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For heaven’s sake, when did the mentality arise that buying things is preferable to making them? I’ve always preferred the home-baked stuff [the grocery-store bought cupcakes and birthday cakes, for example, are just too gross – the frosting is always that crisco+sugar concoction globbed on an inch thick] and the homemade Halloween costumes are always FAR more creative than the plastic-mask-in-a-box-color-coordinated-with-the-hospital-gown-like-super-hero-demi-costume-that-ties-in-the-back.

Not that I consistently live up to this ethic, but whenever I have to resort to buying something like that because I’ve just run short of town I always do it with a pang of failure; for God’s sake there’s nothing to brag about! Bitch.

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Your CIL has a piss-poor attitude, skyblukat.

My mom always made my Halloween costumes. Not because we were poor (we were actually just really middle-class), but because she was damn good at it, and she enjoyed it.

Now that my brother, sister, and I all have kids, things like Christmas are getting expensive. Last year, I ran an idea by my mom–how about doing a handmade gift exchange? I don’t have many good ideas, but I’ll tell you what–that one ranks up there. My mom makes–well, my mom is one of those “crafty” people, you know? She made jewelry (but only because we demanded it-she makes really good jewelry). My sister made candles, my sis-in-law made baked goods, and I made some crocheted things. We spent the money we saved on toys for the kids (all our kids are still toddlers). Sheeeeit, last Christmas was awesome!

I’m going to my mom’s tomorrow. I will be bringing home–a sewing machine. My mom has been kinda gently encouraging me to learn to sew (“really honey, even if you don’t do it often, it’s a good skill to have”). She offered me a barely-used sewing machine, for free. I wasn’t really interested, but my success with the butterfly wings made me stop and think–hey, if I can do that with a glue gun and some felt, I might really be able to rock and roll with a sewing machine! So, I called my mom back and asked her if the sewing machine was still available. It was. And boy, was she happy to hear I’d changed my mind.

So I’ve got two reasons for learning how to make stuff. One, yes, I’m poor, and making stuff can be less expensive. Two, right now, I’m actually finding that I have an aptitude here. If I can do something creative, positive and fun, why shouldn’t I?

So tell your CIL she can blow me, too. :smiley:

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Well, as the proud Marxist, all I have to say to mass-consumer yuppies like this who spend their days racking up endless charges on their Visa Uber-Platinum Gold Tritanium cards and trying to make their kids docile with endless purchases of sugar in plastic wrappers:

:wally

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I guess I’m confused why this deserves a Pit rant.

The CIL is clearly an inferior type human that deserves huge amounts of pity for its obvious stupidity, manifest lack of taste, probably poor parenting skills, and overwhelming bad manners. I would be so busy showering pity on this creature (when I wasn’t trying to stifle my guffaws) that I wouldn’t have time to be mad at it. (Reminds me of my SIL.)

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Don’t sweat it. It all depends on what size window people view the board with. It was on the same line as the text on my window.

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I know people like that. Homemade costumes are so much better! Store bought costumes are cheap things that suck. I feel so lucky that my mom sewed and baked stuff for me. Anyway, This Onion Article sums up some people I know.

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