We also have an open relationship, but have a firm ban on hooking up with members of couples we know without a green light from both members of the couple.
In your situation – I’d contact the wife and say you’re very flattered but tell her why you can’t hook up, and then, yes, act like nothing happened the next time you see either or both of them.
At my doorstep:
I was entering the wrong value in the field for expected refund amount. The refund hit my bank account on April 29.
:embarrassing:
(Well, there SHOULD be an emoji for that!)
We’ve got nesting pockets under the eaves on our front porch. We mostly get house finches but there were some bluebirds last year. Something ate the last clutches of eggs from two of them though - I’ve seen a rat snake skulking about, so I have my suspicions …
Ugh, people always gotta ruin things! I hate awkward shit too.
…agreed
We’ve got bats in our attic. Well, in the eaves. They can’t get into the attic proper because there’s mesh blocking them from getting too far past the vents. They eat mosquitoes and they aren’t bothering anyone so they can stay.
We’ve all but sent out engraved invitations and we can’t get any to populate our place. 
Well, that’s just silly. Bats can’t read.
No, but according to the Etsy site selling the bat house we bought, they should be putting up drapes and getting cable by now.
You just need some inviting eaves.
But beware the eaves droppings!
Things are getting fucking weird with my FIL. I talked to him on the phone today and he seemed like he was in the middle of some kind of mania. His speech was rushed and I couldn’t always follow what he was talking about. I think we’re in trouble.
But the thing I’m mostly ranting about is this weird ass thing he does where he has imaginary conversations with our son.
Like when I was pregnant he’d just shoot us texts that said things like, “Wee Weasel says he wants pancakes but Mom and Dad said no pancakes. Can he have pancakes just this one time?”
Fucking weird, right?
Today it was, “Papa’s going to teach Wee Weasel to go on adventures and he’s going to grow so big and strong that nobody’s going to make fun of his name…” (? He has a common name)…It just went on and on and ended with him talking about all the girls who were going to ogle my son and… Ugh.
I think because he’s been sexually innapropriate in other ways it just rubbed me the wrong way to pre-emptively sexualize my 14 month old.
He’s coming over Friday since he’s finally vaccinated to see Wee Weasel for the first time in the better part of a year, and I’m just a bit nervous. It’s going to be awkward if he’s anyway like he was on the phone. I’m probably not going to be able to prevent myself from urging him to get treatment.
Years ago before my Japanese ex wife “A” and I got married, she had to fly back to Japan for a while. Her best friend “B” came out to the airport and (pre 9/11 days) and also saw A off. The boarding gate wasn’t even all the way closed before B was hitting on me. That was awkward as well but it would be that much worse with the wife of a friend.
Damn. I have absolutely no advice for you.
Discussed the situation last night with my gf. She is laughing at my predicament. She suggested we just not mention anything. There is an outdoor music event coming up in a few weeks and my friend will probably go, his wife usually doesn’t.
Absolute worst case scenario he finds out about what his wife is doing and is angry I never told him.
Loose/lose is one of my pet peeves.
maybe move it to where he thinks it should be?
Back to the birds. I was going to let things go for awhile because, well, they’re birds, and would eventually fly away and I could just get the nest and detritus removed. I mean, I like birds, and they’re an important part of the ecosystem. But the laundry room that has the ventilation fan whose duct they are nesting in is beginning to smell like a vague cross of musty and outdoorsy, sort of like what I imagine a bird’s nest would smell like. It has always smelled fresh and clean until very recently and this is disgusting.
But here’s the best part … check out the terrific diseases and parasites that birds can bring you, including infectious diseases that can be fatal, and bedbugs: 
So I did call the recommended bird nest remover this morning, and I am now in Homeowner Service Hell waiting for them to deem me worthy of a callback.
Nanny was 40 minutes late today!
Yes, she’s done. Since my husband is so busy, the task of finding someone new is on me. And I’m just starting to get my shit together. 