As I’ve moved into my 50’s, and interact with family and friends, I’ve noticed that quite a few of my contemporaries have memories that are in some cases “selective” and in others “completely made up”.
One example is that friend of mine was consistently one of the worst athletes in just about any of the pick-up sports that we played, such as basketball, tennis and American football. He wasn’t particularly athletic in terms of running speed, jumping ability, etc. either. But now decades later, he speaks of those days as if he played sports well, suggesting that he was one of the better players on the field or court.
Another example is my ex-, who seems to recall many things related to child-rearing that I know she didn’t do. When speaking of the past, she constantly recalls many sacrifices she made that never occurred.
Now, neither of these examples are of people that readily lie, and I would never debate either of them on their memories, because I think that they legitimately believe themselves and they are not hurting anyone.
But do they really believe themselves, or are they aware that deep-down, their memories have been self-adjusted to make themselves feel better about themselves? Also, if we actually can control our memories, then it’s not lost on me that I may be doing the same thing, but not realizing it.