I totally get that. I look at my friends whose moms have died, and they say things like, “I still miss her every day. I want so much to be able to talk to her.” I want so much to know what it feels like to feel about your mother that way. And mine is alive. I do feel bitter about missing out on that. I thought surely I’d be over it by this age, but I’m not.
You know there really is a ‘Mom’ disorder. I feel the same way when I hear people talk about their moms. My mom died, but it didn’t make her any more accessible to me. I was angry for years, through my teens, at her. I couldn’t know it or say it at the time. But that was the root of many of my problems. I really didn’t come to terms with it until I hit my 30s. I have a friend who is raising a motherless child and there are so many complications just due to the fact that she was abandoned, it is frightening what this child may come to. They are in therapy, so there’s hope.
I feel that about my Dad, and the funny thing is, we didn’t talk much. But most of what we talked was either purely mechanical (“what’s for dinner?”) or important (from art analysis to reading a contract to the reasons for manners).
It has been some 35 years since the first time someone told me “ah, enjoy your mother while you have her, one day you will miss her so much!” and I thought “I’ve never ever missed her, why would I miss her whenever?”
I expect there may eventually be times I miss having someone who’s always willing to come “help me” decorate… except I decorate just fine when she’s not around. Will I miss having my house reorganized? My clothes, hair, weight and food critiziced? Having someone who was against every important choice I ever made give herself medals, claiming I made those choices on her advice? Dunnow, I really think not but I guess time will tell.
Dear Customers,
I am sorry that my employer will no longer sell gift cards on credit. You can pay with cash, check, or debit but no credit. Really, this was not my decision and we did not do it to piss you off personally. Really.
Complaining to me accomplishes nothing. Well, maybe YOU feel better for venting but it won’t change anything.
Pointing out that we’ll lose sales will change nothing. This decision was made because the store was losing thousands and thousands of dollars a month to fraud. The corporation decided that they would lose less money with this change, willing to lose a few sales rather than lose a LOT to fraud. Yes, it was that bad.
Telling me that you purchased a card with credit last week/yesterday/an hour ago will do nothing. I need my job, my management will back me up, and I’m not going to risk being fired for YOUR convenience. If someone else broke the rules that’s on them.
By all means - speak to a manager. Complain to corporate. You still can’t buy those cards on credit. Threatening to take your business elsewhere? That is your choice and right and we won’t stop you.
Really, I’m sorry for your inconvenience and upset, if for no other reason than I’d rather not have to tell people “no” then get to listen to their complaints and occasional diatribes for 8 hours a day. But really, I’m sorry, I understand it’s inconvenient, but I don’t make the rules. And I need my job. So I have to say no.
Please kick your complaints up the ladder if you must complain.
Thank you,
Your Cashier.
Once every year or three I’ll have a really obnoxious person tell me they’re going to “take their business elsewhere” to which I’ll reply, “Oh my god, that would be wonderful, thank you very much, wait till everyone hears the good news”.
More often then not, even after the blatant insult, they’re back in a few weeks.
We have a mild civil war going on. I bought a large dog bed so both dog #1and dog #2
could sleep together. Because they like that. I put it by the bow window. The cats have decided it belongs to them. So all four animals are hissing, spitting and growling. The cats are indignant and the dogs are skulking around. I may have to put the bed out of the room. Or maybe I need to buy another bed. Crazy animals, they sure make life interesting!
If people can get a better deal elsewhere they should. My store does not do price-matching. Again, not MY decision. Sometimes people say “then why shouldn’t I get this at Wal-Mart?” to which my reply is “You should do what works best for you.” We know you shop other places. Hell, we employees shop other places than just where we work. No one around here pretends otherwise, which honesty I like. (Snarking at customers, though, is not OK. So I have to hold my sarcasm in check.)
If we don’t carry something my management is totally OK with us saying “Whole Foods has that” or “Aldi has that” or “Ace Hardware has that”. It’s considered customer service to help people locate what they want/need even if we don’t have it ourselves.
Frankly, my company is doing just fine right now. Yes, we’ll lose some sales with some decisions, but overall the people in charge seem to be making the right choices often enough to keep the business in the black. Unlike a local competitor who went under this year (we were able to hire some of the people left unemployed by that bankruptcy, to help serve the uptick in customers we experienced after the store closures).
I am so damn complainy lately. I’m not sure if that’s a mini-rant or not. But here is today’s:
I remember thinking some things about parenting were pathetically obvious. Of course my kid will never drink formula, I said. No way will we EVER get fast food. And I am way too smart to helicopter parent my child! Well fuck me sideways, sitting on my hands and watching my son’s grade drop from an A to a B because he forgot to do two easy assignments is KILLING me. Particularly because he forgot those assignments after insisting that his memory was so great he doesn’t need to use a planner.
He also got caught in class playing games on his school-issued chromebook, multiple times, so we get to have that fun talk tonight and whatever consequences I can think of. Given that I can’t remove all his gaming apps from his laptop because some of the games are built into the apps he uses for school, I’m tempted to make him do the missed assignments instead of movie night tonight, but that would take away the natural consequences of failing to complete assignments. Goddammit. Parenting sucks, especially when they start puberty.
You do know ,of course, that if you buy another bed the war will just move there, right?
You mean even if put little signs, marking dog bed and cat bed, they won’t automatically go to the right bed? I can’t win for losing.
At this moment 2 cats and one dog are in the bed together. The outcast dog is in the chair with me, getting an extra belly rub, and smirking. I think this was her plan all the time. Smart beastie!!
Not that we’ve had a particularly hard winter so far, and certainly the snow has been light-ish. Really, I’ve got no reason to complain except I’m feeling cranky about it all.
We’ve had a grand total of 4 snowfalls and I’m already tired of it. I want it to go away.
The rule of [del]thumb[/del] paw is to have one or more food bowls and one more beds than you have animals. When I had 9 cats, I had 10 food bowls. Now I have three cats and a dog and I have six dog/cat beds. Kind of like reverse musical chairs. Tuesday Morning and Marshall’s have so many cute dog/cat beds that I have to restrain myself from buying one every time I go there.
(I wish they would make padded, cozy human beds with the soft, squishy, high bumper walls…I’d like one of those.)
Oh I have a fair share of pet beds. The cats usually retreat to the laundry room on top of the dryer. I have pet beds by the woodstove and the cats have a tree with a bed on top. They mainly use me as their furniture. Sometimes all 4 are on my lap (or hanging off). And bedtime is a real thrill til everyone carves out a spot. I mostly get to lay on whatever is left. Pets are such a joy. The new bed in the window is just the latest novelty.
I have been wishing for one of those since forever!
I thought our old, blind kitty needed a heated bed so I looked at Amazon. I was very amused to find that the second ad for dog beds showed a bed large enough for a Rotty. In the center of this bed was a sleeping cat.
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Buy a 2-cat bed that is raised off the floor, like those towers or pedestals with a sleeper on the top. Cats like to be higher (to emphasize their spot in the hierarchy) so they would see this as putting them above the dogs. And dogs don’t like getting up off the floor (unless something stable like a couch or bed – not a small, unstable cat tower). So the cats will prefer the tower, and the dogs the bed on the floor. And both will be happy.
Heh… I have a large dog bed under my desk and there is usually 2 dogs and 1 cat sleeping there. The old cat likes snuggling up to the warm naked dogs (all short hairs). The fat younger cat only now and then crawls in there (probably because he would get too hot). 2 of the dogs like to sleep in the cat tree 
We just bought a new tiny dog bed and since 2 of the dogs like it so much we’ll be getting a second one. I think they only like it because it’s on my husband’s chair (when he isn’t sitting there). So we’ll be seeing if the second one gets as much use.
The pets sleep on: computer chairs, couch, cat tree, dog beds, in bed with people and on laps.
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If you believe a cat can ever be happy, you must not own a cat.
Follow up: since the two were booted with no notice, no one had yet bothered to get a hand off of their various responsibilities (everyone thought there was time). So lots of things aren’t getting done anymore, which is hilarious.
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The only time my cats are happy is when they are bossing me around. The VERY minute I think things are okay, an emergency occurs. Which may not be much, but enough to piss a Siamese off. Might as well be WW 3.
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we have happy cats.