Well. Thanks for all the responses! This is a common problem with the elderly I’ve found out. They get ideas in their heads and simply aren’t able to think clearly, they are sitting ducks for this kind of thing, which is why it’s so successful. And once they get on the ‘sucker list’ and involved with Jamaican scam artists who are VERY clever-watch out!
I will tell you this, yesterday I got my brother in Florida on the phone, and he and my sister in law made some phone calls to the bank and the telephone company while I drove over to my mother’s to see what exactly was going on. When I got there, there was a neighbor there, and a police officer on his cell phone talking to the phone company trying to get Mom’s phone number changed to a new, unlisted number.
Get this: the scammers had blocked all incoming calls to her phone except calls from them, and they were calling continuously trying to talk to my mother. The cop said her phone rang 50 times in an hour - he’d answer and they’d hear his voice and hang up! And he said technically there was nothing really illegal about it! I talked to my brother on neighbor’s cell phone in the meantime. So after half an hour the cop got mom’s old phone number cancelled and a new unlisted phone number. and her phone stopped ringing, blessed blessed silence from heavily accented scam artist.
My brother had called her bank and managed to talk them into putting a hold on her (and my - we have joint) checking account until we went there, got our account cancelled, and a new checking account established (which we did later that day). I didn’t know for sure if the scammers ever got any check from her, but didn’t want to take the chance. Mom does know how to write checks and withdraw cash with no problem.
After patient questioning, Mom admitted yesterday she spent $400 on a pack of scratchoffs of some type at a drugstore, went home, and ‘read off the numbers on the back’ over the phone to these scammers. (I do not know what that was about, but apparently there was nothing illegal according to the cop - so somehow they got the use of $400 worth of scratchoffs.) In mom’s purse I found a check made out to cash for $1,500 she planned to withdraw, with a list of instructions she jotted down, - where to get more scratchoffs to buy, for the same purpose. $1,500! . Plus notes about how “a Brinks truck would come by to deliver the Million Dollar Check”, they were going to deliver a car she had won to her house and she should have $500 cash on hand for a delivery fee. Instructions on how to wire funds through Western Union and a list of Western Union offices, and how much to send and where…oh, it just turned my stomach! What BASTARDS - and technically the were not doing anything illegal!
All this time Mom was rather irked at first, grumbling that we were going to regret not getting that car she won and insisting the cop have a piece of cake! (he did! he was a nice young guy and they kind of knew each other previously, it being a very small town).
So - the bank account was closed and a new one opened. Old phone number of 50 years cancelled, new unlisted phone number established. … Now I have to call everyone I can think of to tell them the new phone number. Call Social Security, health insurance company, and the pension office to tell them about the checking account (for direct deposit). A bunch of checks she recently wrote to stores, etc. are probably going to be bouncing for months to come. I’m probably going to get phone calls wondering why they can’t contact my mom.
And get this! While we were at the bank, mom’s neighbor said he a cab pulled up in her driveway and the driver went to the door. He went over to investigate and the cab driver had, in his hand, his cell phone. And emanating from that cell phone was the heavily accented, loud voice of the scammer demanding my mother talk to him! Neighbor said he could hear the guy barking on the cell phone: “Sali’s Mom! Sali’s Mom! It is VERY VERY important you talk to me! It is VITAL you speak to me on this phone, Sali’s Mom! I MUST SPEAK WITH YOU!” (cab driver was sniggering, probably did this kind of thing a lot.)
I called the cop and he said, technically, nothing illegal was done. The scammer is not actually in the area, he is in Jamaica which is where any money wired would end up. (oh, and he has one of those 876 area codes on the dozen different phone numbers he has left with mom over the last couple of months, which means the phone company can attach a $1,000 charge to a phone call made to him, or so I’ve heard. Will be waiting to see if THAT charge shows up on her next phone bill).
So I went through mom’s desk and drawers and tried to find every scrap of paper with any phone numbers from this scammer so she wouldn’t be moved to call him back! There is no one name, no one number, no name of a company, just a daily barrage of calls from that asshole demanding $100, $200, $300 from Mom that “she will get back” once she receives the $1 million, $3 million, $35 million dollar Grand Prize.
And every day, every day, she gets in her mail a fucking STACK of charity letters, you-may-be-a-winner letters from all over the country, all over the world! - save the children, save the veterans, save the animals/ocean/horses/pigs/donkeys/rain forest, plus contests, sweepstakes, lotteries, raffles for her to fill out and mail in with a small fee. So then her name will be ‘put on a list’ and she will have to send in another fee so her name will be higher UP on the list, to win The Grand Prize of a car or $5 million.
All this started from an entry in Publisher’s Clearinghouse, where they are going to bring a gigantic check to the winner’s door, with a TV crew filming it. I hope Ed McMahon, deceased Face of Publisher’s Clearinghouse, is roasting in a nice hot corner of hell.
I don’t think this is over yet, our Jamaican scammer got a $400 taste of pigeon. I will just have to be more vigilant about her mail, keep on top of her regular finances, and try smuggle out those stacks of mail. (I have removed over a dozen brown paper grocery bags jam packed with this crap from her house, under vehement protest, in the last couple of months. As fast as I remove it, there’s more to take its place.)
This is about all I and my long-distance brother can do. Mom is doing pretty well, with my occasional help, on her own, in her own house. She’s lived there for 65 years and is adamant she is going to die there. She doesn’t want to spend the day with me, go to a senior citizen center, or go stay with my Florida brother even in the winter - can’t leave the house, what if the icicles build up and pull down the gutter? What if her disabled son (who lives in a group home a few miles away) needs a ride to the store for a bag of potato chips? What about her car, what if the battery goes dead without it being started up regularly? Can’t leave the house for any length of time! Move into assisted living? :eek: You have got to be shitting her, srsly???
OK. So be it. Can’t force her to move, or go hang out with “old people” at the seniors center or church. I’m here to do what I can for her until something dire happens. Yesterday’s activities were the worst of it so far, but she only lost $400 this time!