So if a man tells his wife that he intends to be polygamous (and she is in no position to be able to leave him), then it’s cool because at least he didn’t do it behind her back? That woman made decisions and took actions based on the promise that they would be partners for life. If you are going to have an open marriage, shouldn’t that be clear from the outset so you know what you are getting into?
In some cultures, the polite thing to do is to lie convincingly with a discreet mistress so that you don’t rub her nose in it. And that goes both ways if it’s the wife that has the power to be able to dictate terms of marriage.
Okay, that’s fine. It just seems like you were saying, “well, she should’ve known that if her husband wasn’t going to agree to being monogamous in the first place”, or whatever.
Why do you think your question would matter? Are you under the delusion that something can only be sexist if men say it?
What matters is how the term is used. A “slut” is a woman who likes sex “too much.” Slut shaming is an attempt to socially punish her for this. It is about putting women in their place. This same idea does not occur with men, who are studs or players or whatever if they have a lot of sex, and never get told their clothing choices are too sexy.
When you have a negative term that only applies to one sex when both do the same behaviors, that term is sexist. The bigger the discrepancy, the more profoundly sexist it is.
Men started the concept because they are in charge. Some women give into it, because it allows them to “virtue signal” that they aren’t sluts and thus worthy of desire. None of this is complicated in the slightest.
What I never get on this board is the snarky ignorance. You could have just went and read a simple article on slut-shaming. You could have informed yourself. But, instead, you attack iiandyiii with snark for statements you haven’t even fact checked.
Nothing makes you look stupider than heavy snark when you’re factually wrong. So why risk it?
Slutshaming is misogynistic. It’s about punishing women for enjoying sex. It does not punish men. Thus it is sexist towards women. And, of course, many women give in to sexism. None of this should be new information for anyone who actually cares about the subject.
And, again, snark remains a poor form of argument. It cannot replace facts. Why not go read some?
This doesn’t matter in the least, and just shows your ignorance yet again. Society and culture are too blame. Men and women are both part of society and culture. If women and girls are taught to slut shame, then they will do so, but that doesn’t make society less misogynistic.
The fact that most rapes and sexual assaults go unreported is very clear evidence that society is profoundly misogynistic. The fact that a likely rapist is president is clear evidence that society is profoundly misogynistic. The fact that many politicians have no fear of nominating or voting to confirm a credibly accused rapist to SCOTUS is clear evidence. The fact that we’ve never had a woman president is clear evidence. The fact that most women and girls experience sexual harassment or abuse, mostly with no consequences for their harassers or abusers, is clear evidence. The fact that promiscuous men are celebrated while promiscuous women are denigrated is clear evidence. The abominable treatment by society of sex workers around the world is clear evidence.
And yes, it’s incredibly obvious that most, if not all, of the world, is profoundly misogynistic. That you are so damn ignorant that you’re unable to see something so fucking obvious just demonstrates that you’re part of the problem. Yes, ignorance is a big part of the problem - not just widespread abuse and harassment. We’ll never fix it unless the vast majority agree that this is clearly a big problem.