Monogamy is for idiots

[Eonwe]

To pull in a quote from the other thread:

@DragonAsh

Bovine manure, it’s exactly what happened here. The fact that the relationship was ‘de facto’ monogamous is beside the point. The OP made it clear from the start that he would only promise to tell the basic details when/if had other sex partners. He didn’t promise -not- to have other sex partners. There is a huge difference in the level of emotional investment each side is making. The OP’s partner made it clear that, while not 100% happy with the promise, she would accept it, even though she would probably be hurt bad enough to want to end the relationship.

Hm . . . be hurt bad enough to want to end the relationship . . . that sounds like despite the window dressing and politeness of the ‘deal’, she clearly needed him to remain monogamous for the relationship to work, which he did. How this is different than any other monogamous agreement I cannot see. “I will be in a relationship with you. If you choose to be with other people, I’m likely going to want to end it with you.”