More iWoz: communicating with his infant son

Never heard of people being able to do this– in Chapter 19

“With Jesse, when he was just a few months old I had the most fun with him doing what I called these “flying tours”. I would hold him so that his belly was over my palm and he could see everything from the correct perspective. (I got the idea from Candi’s brother, Peter Clark, who told me that if you hold a baby on its back, it’s always seeing everything differently than grown-ups do.) But the other way, the baby could se the world like we do. It was just logical.

“So I used to hold baby Jesse that way, and all of a sudden I could see his eyes would look to the left or the right a little. Then his head would move in one direction and stay there, and I’d realize, Oh, okay, he’s looking at the window shade. So what I did was I’d take him over to it. It was only fair. I’d let him touch it – I’d move his hands against it – and when he was done, he’d turn his head again, and maybe back toward his mom, and we’d zoom back to her.

“So we started getting in the habit of doing this. He’d be lying on my palm, looking at the big TV, and I’d take him to it. Or to the shelf, which had a top and an edge he could feel.. So we started getting around the world this way, and he’d always come back to home base at the end.

“Jesse got more and more confident. We’d start from home base and then go room by room through the entire house. He’d explore. I could feel his muscles tense in a certain way I could interpret as “Lift me up a little more” or “Let’s go a little lower.” Sometimes, when he got a little bigger, he would wave his arms and his feet like he was a mad swimmer, and that meant “Go as fast as you can.” So we had this great form of communication between us, and this was all before he was even eight months old. I was no longer just looking at the movements his head made; I’d feel his muscles tensing to tell me which way to go. I used to tell people this, and they didn’t believe me. So I’d tell them, “Okay, I’ll close my eyes. Drop something.” And Jesse would just tense his muscles and lead me right down to it. It really surprised people.

“I would try this with other babies – these flying tours – and I found out that after about twenty minutes, I could do it with them, too. All babies were the same! All babies gave the same muscle signals. I loved that I had figured out a way to let Jesse choose what to explore, before he could even crawl or walk, without having to be totally dependent on someone else.”

Assuming all babies are the same, wonder how easy for a parent to get the hang of that, if they’re told it’s possible.

I don’t get it. Babies are usually held with their heads upright. Unless someone who doesn’t ever take care of a baby is seated and you plop the baby in their lap and they don’t know what to do with it but have it lie back.

He seems to be describing what everyone in my family has always called the “football hold”.

If your baby is gassy, it’s a great way to help relieve the gas. One of our granddaughters was often gassy and I would hold her like that and rock her. It helped a lot.

Babies do look at things that they are interested in, so I think this part is ok.

This seems like complete garbage. I think Woz was interpreting random baby movements as communication. Woz basically fell victim to the human mind’s natural tendency to see patterns in random data.

In baby talk, that means “I’m excited and energetic” and may or may not have anything to do with what the baby is seeing as he or she is being carried around.

You can interpret baby movements a bit as far as indicating what they are interested in. It’s not difficult for a parent (or grandparent) to do. But it seems to me that Woz is taking a lot of random baby movements and interpreting them as communication, which, in my opinion, it’s probably not.

Right, but he implies that ordinarily, babies are not held in a way where their heads are upright. Thank goodness he was able to figure out this complex maneuver!

IANA parent. I’ve never carried a baby very far.

I’m kinda stuggling to picture an adult holding a baby in front of them upright while walking around. It’s not hard to see how to do it: your hands under the baby’s armpits with fingers encircling their torso. But I don’t recall seeing parents actually doing it.

Tryi g to explain Woz’s “palm on their belly” description is even harder.

What am I missing?

By “palm on their belly” I was imagining walking them around like the baby is Superman flying around.

That was my initial impression too.

But infants famously have weak necks. An infant held in that posture would mostly have their face aimed at the floor.

Which is inconsistent w the “same POV as adults” and also with “baby sees all sorts of interesting stuff around the room”.

Colir me confused

Babies can also learn sign language earlier than spoken language.

Not a massive vocabulary, but their high-level communication skills lead their spoken-language articulation.

And ordinary people can learn to read adult muscle movements: we just don’t bother. It’s a staple of high-level athletes, side-show mind-reading, sales, and Ericksonian psychology

Or a sling/baby-carrier. I see plenty of fathers carrying a baby facing forwards that way.

It’s known in parenting circles as the “Tiger in the tree” or “Leopard in the tree” hold.

Is that in Israel? Never heard of those in the US, not that I’m a baby-jungle lingo expert.