I’m so very sorry, carnivorousplant.
I’m so sorry–there’s just no upside or comfort to something like this, at all. It just sucks.
My sincere condolences. I know how hard it is to lose a parent.
StG
My condolences, carnivorousplant
My condolences and sympathies. I’ve lost both my parents. The pain does fade after a while.
Take time for yourself. Trust me on this one.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
carnivorousplant, I’m with you.
I’ve lost this year, and lost big. I understand what’s going on, and I’m here for ya.
Tripler
Just e-mail me if you want to vent.
My sympathies and condolences for your loss. I can’t imagine how hard it must have been for you to make that decision. You were brave and showed great love and fortitude in a difficult time. I second Feydeau’s advice.
My mother is dying right now. She has been slipping away for the last week, or more. It is a much different situationthan yours, in details, but we both know that the similarity is the essential part.
I ask the Lord to bring them both joy, now that we cannot. For ourselves, I can only share your sorrow.
Tris
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Condolences, carnivorousplant. After spending a month doing an ICU elective, and from what I can glean from the OP and the posts in the thread, it sounds like you really made the right decision. Never look back on your decision with doubt. She would have never weaned off of the vent and you would have faced progressively harder decisions about feeding tubes and parenteral nutrition and sedation, even quite possibly needing to restrain her.
Addressing code status is often the best option. Your final gift to her was dignity and comfort in her final hours. She rests in peace.
I’m terribly sorry and I hope you can find a way to fight through the loss. It’s hard and it takes time, but it will happen.
carnivorousplant, add my sympathies to those that have already been expressed.
And mine. I’m so sorry.
I am very sorry for your loss.
My deepest condolences.
My gradmother and my Aunt both had long drawn out conversations with people that weren’t there when they were nearing the end. I guess I just considered it normal. One foot in this world and all that.
Sorry for your loss.
My condolences, carnivorousplant. I’m so sorry to hear about your loss.
Colon cancer to the liver was what killed my mom. Sorry for your loss. It’s hard to lose a mom.
carnivorousplant—This is going to be a very tough time for you.
But we’re here for you.
Keep posting, we hear you.
And, I’m sorry for your troubles. 