I might as well have a conversation with a brick wall. I reread every single post I made because I wanted to see how you were saying I was being so awful regarding my tone toward mothers and SAHM (not even mentioned by me) and you keep going in the same odd direction with a statement you IMAGINE to be a certain way. If I thought my job were just too damn important, I would CERTAINLY be the first to rock the boat. You can’t begin to even fathom that you might have been WRONG and see things from another person’s point of view (exactly the same thing people were beating over catsix head in that joke of a “pitting” against her). You take a breeze and call it a tornado and then refuse to even THINK (let alone admit) that you’re twisting things to throw gasoline on a fire because of your own imagined slant. You praise Catsix in the horrible post about her that you are “impressed” by her ability to admit her “little posting foibles” yet you refuse to even look at your own. I reread mine and can fully admit that although they are anything but what you described them to be, I could have used better words but they don’t COMPARE with the “tsk tsking” way you address many people who have not so much as even given you a cross word.
Honestly, I can’t imagine someone with so much life experience is so rigid and unable to try to see a common ground with someone. You can continue your holier than thou finger pointing with everyone else you imagine to be anti-parent, I was under the impression that people actually come to this website to exchange ideas, not to have pissing contests with grown people.
A job’s a job. Older people supporting themselves and their families could be found in all of these places. At the grocery store, there were many full-timers, who received (admittedly crappy) benefits, including maternity leave.
Let me give you some examples from one of my office jobs once. Some of my co-workers had young children, and they might take extra time off for various kid-care reasons. One woman would bring her school-aged kids in when her child care fell through–fortunately they were well-behaved.
The boss’s personal assistant had no children, but lived with her ailing parents. Every day she would go home to fix their lunch and check up on them, and often that meant she was gone for longer than her scheduled lunch break. Sometimes she took time off to take her parents to their doctor’s appointments; sometimes there was an emergency and she had to leave suddenly in the middle of the day. She never left work for anyone else to do, and she often took work home or came in on weekends. But due to the nature of her job, when she was not in the office, someone needed to cover for her, to field the boss’s phone calls and run any sudden errand. Due to the nature of this office, nobody begrudged her this time away.
Another worker wanted to take a language class scheduled for working hours. Twice a week, with the permission of the boss, she left for two and a half hours in the middle of the day.
My husband changed jobs. He went from working in an office to teaching school. He had to make some small adjustments. He could no longer leave work for a doctor’s appointment. If he left the building for lunch, he absolutely had to be back by the time his next class started, or something strongly approximating hell would break out. No more four-day weekends courtesy of comp time. The point of this anecdote? In his office, the hours were relaxed, and it wasn’t just the parents who took advantage of this. And this office had a remarkably low turnover rate.
Well, did you read my last post about this? I proffered some reasons why an employer might do this. I didn’t say it made it right, but I just threw out there some reasons why. Do you mean you don’t understand, or you don’t agree that those reflect an employer’s reasons, or both, or some other thing?