I knew someone was going to bitch about her race being used. Imagine if she were black. :eek:
First, was your credit score impacted in a negative manner due to your ex and his then girlfriend and now wife?
If not, then I would find an amicable way to sort this out. If you file a police report and go “official” your credit report will be flagged and this will show up if someone pulls credit on you. I know this as I used to sell cars and from time to time I would see an ID theft warning. This was of serious concern to us.
If, there was harm, I would retain the services of a lawyer before filing a police report. There may be a way to get this resolved in a satisfactory manner as far as you are concerned without involving the police and getting your credit profile all screwed up. On top of it, I would have them pay for the lawyer.
As far as her citizenship is concerned… It depends how they went about it. If they went the route of a “fiance visa” -which is what I did- then your “other” can work about a month after you are married. You get a Tax Id, this is not a green card nor a SSN, its a Tax Id and you can work no problem. If you got married first, then applied, then you have to wait for the right to work. This can be upto six months. The process for citizenship, if you did all the paperwork correctly, had the medical exams, meet all the requirements, pass the interview, pass the citizenship class, can be accomplished in about 3 years. It took us close to 4 years. So, that all being said, she may or may not be a citizen. Hopefully, she is a legal resident alien which will then give her a Tax Id, maybe even a SSN depending on the status of that. You’d have to ask as “legal resident alien” has multiple meanings.
I think it would be really hard for them to be married, in residence with each other, with your ID as that would show up somewhere. Unless, she used your ID, and married him, which would then mean you married him again! HA-HA!
Overall, this is a tough one. What they did was wrong and impacts you. I am almost ready to change my first part and say that you should get a lawyer either way to show them that you are dead serious about this. And, it will prevent them from falling back on your ID, years from now, they need credit for something.
I don’t know if it would go that far, but it occurs to me that this could potentially get the woman deported, and if she’s a citizen then her citizenship could be revoked.
As far as I can tell, my credit has not been impacted, yet. And as you said, by flagging myself I could open up a whole new set of issues for myself. However, it could burn me at a time that could be detrimental for me at a later date. I have never applied for a passport, but now I’m wondering if that could be an issue. So then my next questionis… is this a Federal, a district attorney, or local police concern? Where do I start?
I know that. 
Better than most, unfortunately. My question is, what does her non-citizen status have to do with the problem at hand? It doesn’t really matter why she faked her identity in terms of what steps the OP has to take to get this addressed.
I don’t want to sound mean, but I really don’t care if she gets deported or not, not even remotley my concern. If it turns out that way so be it. It would not make me happy sad or otherwise.
Understood, if she can’t do the time she shouldn’t do the crime.
OTOH if the OP did want to consider the impact on her ex’s family, e.g., if there are kids involved, this is exactly what it has to do with it.
I’m not sure and you should know better than me, but I am sure when a person applies for citizenship, isn’t there questons about breaking the law or something like that on the application? If so, then she has, and was probably not truthful on her application to begin with.
They have to little girls together. 4 and 7, again, not my concern. I did not do this.
I would start by getting copies of all* of your credit reports. Don’t go to any of the multitude of “free” credit reports that are scams. Use this one (its part of the legally mandated program whereby they have to give you one once a year):
If there is anything on there you dispute you can then report it (I am guessing to the local police, though its possible its not there jurisdiction if everyone involved was out of state) and IMMEDIATELY get a copy of your police report. AFAIK there is no downside to this, you are not “flagging” yourself in any way. Once you have the report it is easy to get stuff removed from your report.
On the plus side, as I understand it, in most cases like this one the only reason someone is using your ID is to get work, and nothing more nefarious than that (no loans, bank accounts, credit cards, etc.). So more likely than not there is nothing unpleasant lurking in your credit history, but its DEFINITELY worth checking.
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- edit: can stagger it so that you only get one report every few months, you have the right to one report per-agency every year.
That sounds reasonable to me, I just want my report to only include MY information. It bothers me that my persnal info was used for what ever reason.
Actually its kind of good sign in terms of hausermh’s situation, and hence fairly relevant. If a citizen has stolen your ID its almost certainly so they can open credit cards or bank accounts in your name and could be pretty painful to resolve (I know from personal experience). In cases like this, where a non-citizen uses you SSN to get work, that is more often than not, where it ends. And so much less serious on your part.
I don’t understand why the IRS didn’t catch it when you didn’t report the Red Lobster income on your tax return. I thought the IRS computers are pretty good at matching up W2s and 1099s with what you report on your 1040.
Thank you all for participating in this conversation. It was very nice to hear all of the opinions and options that you have shared with me. I feel I can proceed with some good information brought forth by you all. Thank you!
If anyone thinks of anything more please do share.
As a person who used to work in the Records Division of a police dept. I can tell you—this can follow you for a very long time (re: your financing dilemma.) Go to your local police station/Safety Bldg. & file an Incident Report. (This isn’t an emergency so don’t call.) Once you have that (proof) notify your bank & lenders (credit cards et.) It’s not uncommon for ppl to claim to be somebody else & I don’t know if you could even pursue this legally—unfortunatly it’s up to victim to prove their innocence/non-involemnt. You’re going to need to check/contact the 3 credit reporting companies (like EquaFax etc.) & file…I don’t know—affadavits? to what they have. Keep a paper trail & slog thru this. And I guarantee you that at some point, like when you’re 65 & start getting Social Security, somebody is going to ask you, “…and how much did you make at Red Lobster?” There is no good side to this…I’d slash her tires.
ex Mex
I don’t know if I’m worthy enough to be an ex-Hispanic. The other team members constantly looking to me, depending on me… What if someone dies out there?
It would all be my fault…
They pray the olé away.
Seriously, did you just use “irregardless”? On the SDMB? Are you new?
Hey, if MJ could pull off being ex-black, anything is possible.