My friend has bone marrow cancer

I don’t know how serious this is. I guess I could just look it up on the net, but it’s really upsetting me right now. She was the first friend I made when I moved to Ar five years ago. I called her tonight to see how she was and she tells me she has bone marrow cancer.

What a shock.

I don’t know details because she said it hasn’t sunk in yet. She doesn’t want to talk about it right now and told me she’d call tomorrow. She also said that she has to go back to the doctor “to get bone marrow.”

I don’t know if i’m being dramatic, but I had a good crying session tonight, thank you.

Well, I’m just really sorry to hear that. My heart goes out to you and your friend.

I’m very sorry to hear about your friend. Mr. S’s mother had it (I never knew her). From what he tells me, it was not pleasant at all.

Best wishes to your friend.

I’m sorry, too, to hear about your friend’s diagnosis. Generally, a bone marrow cancer is also called leukemia (unless it involves the bone itself). It can involve white or red cells, and there are at least 10 different types, off the top of my head. Your friend will go in for a bone marrow biopsy, where some of the marrow is removed and a core of the bone itself is removed for study and further diagnosis. I’ve assisted in perhaps 30 biopsies, and processed countless others in the lab. It’s a routine procedure now, and not often with complications. Leukemia is not the death sentence it used to be, and unless it is an unusually aggressive or complicated case, remission or cure is quite possible. After a pathologist has reviewed your friend’s bone marrow biopsy, your friend will have a diagnosis, prognosis and treatment plan. Until then, try to relax and wait.


I’m very sorry to hear about your friend. I will remember her in my prayers.

Is it “multiple myeloma?” Considering that that is not one of the more common cancers, I’ve known several people who have had it.

Thanks guys.

I’m not sure exactly what type it is or what is even going on. I talked to her briefly that one night, and haven’t since. She hasn’t called me like she said she would, and I’ve tried calling her four times. I just want to know something, ya know?

I don’t know if I should just go to her apartment and see her because in the last phone call she almost sounded like she wanted me to with out actually saying it. Arrrgh I just wish she’d call me!

I’m sorry to hear that. She may be dealing with doctors and family members which is why she’s not able to answer your phone calls. I have a friend whose dad has cancer (lung cancer) and she does not want to talk about it, so I stopped asking how her dad is a long time ago. Not to be insensitive, but she just doesn’t like talking about things like that and I don’t want to bring up a subject that’s painful for her to think about. Plus you mentioned your friend doesn’t want to talk about her diagnosis- perhaps she’s still digesting the information and figuring out how to handle it.

Anyway, I wish the best for her and hope that it’s easily treatable. My grandfather has been in remission from leukemia for 30+ years how, so if that is what she has it can be easily managed.

Plus, this is a ten year old thread. Given the subject matter, I kinda hate to make a zombie joke, though…

Oh goodness- I didn’t look at the date. Was there a post above mine that got deleted?

Anyway, I hope everything got sorted out…


I have had CLL leuk in my blood for 21 years. It never affected my life until two years ago (at 68 yrs.). I took an experimental drug and so far have had 18 month remission. When that ends, I should be eligible for one further kind of treatment that will give a few more years. You would be surprised if you went to the hospital clinic I go to for exams and treatment; few of the people there look ill in anyway. Usually drs will say “You have leuk., but it will not kill you . You will live to die of something else.” and rule #1 - do not read the internet about your disease. Pay attention to the science and medical people.