If she’s no longer attractive to you then dump her. It’s a GF. Not your wife. Be thankful that you got a get out of jail free card.
Run!
Think long and hard. Does the hair matter that much to you? It’s totally your choice. You are free to date whoever you choose.
If you hate it that much break up with her and go date someone else. What’s the big deal? You’re young. Are you planning to marry this girl?
Look, people here are going to give you a bunch of PC nice guy sensitive bullshit about “respecting her choices” and “looking past superficial stuff”. It’s nonsense. You don’t have to feel like a jerk because you think she fucked up her appearance.
What if she totally shaved her head? Or decided to dress all Goth or get a tramp stamp tattoo? Or dye her hair purple? Or gains 50 lbs? There gets to be a point when someone changes there appearance too much that they simply aren’t the same person you were attracted to.
So basically your choices are decide that you like her enough to ignore a bad haircut (which will grow back). Or find someone else with hair you like.
Agreed. That’s the whole point in dating someone for a long time before marriage. Is it really someone that you’re compatible with and want to spend fifty years together. Through sickness and health.
I was with a girl for five years. Had a lot of good times. But there was a few nagging issues. Her drinking and partying really had me worried. There were other issues too. I finally decided it wasn’t worth the risk. I did eventually find the right lady and we’ve been together 23 years. I’m looking forward to growing old with her in the next 25 years. 
I’m not gonna leave her bc of this. I have never in the 1.5 years I’ve known her seen her hair this short and it shocked me. Kinda one of those “wtf were you thinking?” type of deals.
I hardly ask anything of her and typically bend over backwards to please her. Look up the last thing I posted here if you wanna know how special she is to me. I dont expect much from her but the whole deal makes me wonder if she cares about my opinion. We talked about this earlier and I told her my opinion and she totally went against it.
I don’t know, maybe she’s unhappy with it too. I haven’t asked her that yet.
The whole “I prefer women with long hair” thing really rubs me the wrong way. I don’t know why it makes me so mad - I’m cool with guys who like big boobs or skinny girls or Latinas or blondes. But when guys get bent out of shape about the length of a woman’s hair it just pings my misogyny meter to 11. Ok maybe not misogyny but just…unfair.
You grow your hair out to what the length of hers used to be, and you style it and you keep it clean and you keep yourself cool, then come back and tell us about how your girlfriend should do that for you because you think it’s purdy.
She doesn’t style it though. All she does is wash it. She doesn’t wear makeup, kinda plain. But I like it that way. It’s a lot of work to keep clean shaven but I wanna stay good looking for her.
The short answer is that she’s not that into you. Changing hairstyle is a key indicator of divorce or split. Double points because you told her your view and she decided against.
Smoking and being addicted. My wife has smoked occasionally for more than 25 yrs. We are currently in vacay, she will probably have a half pack. Couple on July 4, couple more at beer fest in Sept. No, that’s not addicted. That’s social. Apparently not everyone who indulged, gets addicted.
I am so glad my boyfriend is mature and kind and smart. I am going to go hug him now.
Hair? I might say something like “Look, if you’re thinking of doing whatever specifically to make yourself more attractive to me, I don’t think so. But it’s your hair, do what you want.” I might feel differently if it were a tattoo, but hair? Hell, it grows back.
What seems to really gripe the OP is he gave his GF his opinion and she went ahead and did what she wanted to anyway. Without his approval or permission.
You know, if the OP gives it a chance, he might come to like the shorter hair too.
This is outrageous because I’ve never heard of a woman who tries to change her man’s hair style, the way he dresses, how long he plays video games, the words he says, how he eats, breaths, what he does with his hands or the direction his eyes are looking.
It kind of depends if it’s like Anne Hathaway for whom every change works out fantastic, or if it’s a troubling mistake like with Miley Cyrus.
Either way, you’ll get used to it after a week or so.
My ex looks like a marine that’s had chemotherapy.
I’m just saying this because she’s been pissing me off lately and I think she might be cruising this site.
But its true.
Back to the OP. Like pretty much everyone else here, I say get over it.
I like shorter hair but that’s beside the point. It is amusing with all the huffing and puffing in this thread about your judging her appearance as being controlling and yet women often engage in wholesale makeovers of their SOs and this is seen as perfectly normal.
Personally I would keep my mouth shut about things that will be corrected over time. People have their preferences, but I would rather not stand in the way of person’s right to experiment with their look. I think I would rather have a women who had the confidence to try new stuff vs worrying about whether I was going to be displeased or not. You do have a point that if her look is not what you are attracted to or want to be associated with you can move on. It’s your choice.
As a side note you might not want to bring up the “you did this on my birthday” entitlement thing. Grown men don’t do passive aggressive shit like that, it makes you seem like huge whiny crybaby.
This sentence speaks volumes and I have an inkling she does a lot more to please you than you realize.
Do you think that it’s within her control whether to be addicted?
Pretty much what Astro said. It wouldn’t be a deal breaker to me. It’s funny that she’s a lot more easy going about this than you are, considering it is her hair.
some people might have a fetish attraction to a person.
then some people might be a bit of a bird brain.
birds tend to develop an attraction to the first living thing they see. usually it’s mom. but people also become the fixated being.
there may be some element of this in people.
you may have a bonding moment with a person. like during a discussion they said something that gave you a glance into their person that you just admired. or long before you expected them to care for you they did something with planning and thought that they know you would like. you remember that along with how they might have looked or smelled and it sort of a packaged memory.
with a long term relationship you will likely see changes.
with a shorter relationship changes may be harder to process.
To the OP: it may not be too late! The first thing you need to do is dump that selfish slag you’re with now, of course. Then begins your adventure!
Find out where she got her hair cut and go root through the dumpster behind the salon. Jackpot! Not only might you retrieve your current girl’s lost locks, but you’re also bound to score some hot “strange” from the salon’s other customers. It’s a win/win!
Fashion a silky new girlfriend out of your findings and commence ta humpin’! Mazel Tov!
PS. Watch out for split ends because they can get stuck in your meatus. Your urethral meatus.
I’m stuck on the fact that she cut her hair “to the bottom of her neck” and you’re harping on how its short, frankly you sound a bit cukoo. Most girls consider “hair to the bottom of the neck” to be “long” as do hair stylists. Mid-length is between shoulder and chin. Short is above chin.
When you said you preferred long hair, and she cut it to the base of her neck, she might have thought she was doing as you would have wished her to, while still making a change. Its still long. Just less long.
That said, if you hate it so much, break up, everyone will be happier. If you don’t hate it so much, quit your bitching.
Thank OG I have a wonderful husband, who fell for me with long, red hair; loved me just the same when I chopped it all off to my shoulders; married me 11 years ago today with medium-length brown hair; tolerated me through my layered blonde phase; but loves me exactly the same today with chin-length hair with purple streaks. Yes, actual purple (there’s more purple in it today than when this picture was taken — I liked it so much I had more put in!).
I’d never tolerate someone as superficial as the OP. I wish your girlfriend good luck (she’s gonna need it).
