Aw shit, hit “submit” instead of “preview.” Not done posting yet…
On the other hand, I don’t even care anymore.
No, I’m saying that in the grand scheme of things, or even in the day-to-day scheme of things, posting to correct something like a fucking dash is really a waste of your time:) Guin’s a big girl and can take care of herself re: baby (which I don’t think she is; what percent of her posts are whiney again?:)).
Yeah . . . I actually gotta give her a bath soon.
You didn’t pick this thread at random. But you did fool me on the “Was she just picking a thread at random and raising pointless shit about it?” bit. So you did, actually, fool me, if you were saying you didn’t:)
Damn fucking straight I want some cites for Guin actingn immature frequently.
You have to change your WHOLE understanding of grammar and punctuation to read her posts? How is your understanding of a restrictive clause, or the proper use of a semicolon, or subject-verb agreement challenged by her posts? I’ve found her to be a rather well-spoken person as long as I can remember.
Oooooh, I’m not so sure I’d advise graduate school. Depends on what you want to do, of course. But sometimes having a masters is a detriment in getting a job, esp. when you don’t have experience under your belt (e.g. teaching). This is esp. true of companies that have union wage scales that aren’t flexible. (If you have a masters, they’d have to pay you x more dollars than if you had a bachelor’s. For that reason, employers prefer hiring someone with a bachelor’s).
Get experience in your field if you can. You didn’t say what your degree will be in. Liberal arts? Engineering? IT? Some have co-op programs that are a great way to get your foot in the door. Most colleges have career placement programs, too. Ask.
In the meantime, finish your degree with as high a gpa as you can, esp. in your major, and network, network, network. There are few easier ways to get your foot in the door than with a good recommendation from someone who works in that company.
Good luck, Guin.
I’m not gonna pick apart anyone’s grammar today, but I just want Guin to know that she’s not alone! Let’s review my Thursday through Saturday, 'mkay?
- Out of a job, (company doing very poorly). I quit a full time job with benefits thinking (after being told)I could move into a part time job at same company (I go to University full time as well as working full time, and I was getting a bit stressed) I was counting on the part time job as at least subsistence employment. Friday afternoon: Oh, by the way, we won’t need you to be workng here next week, Gretchen, there is no job for you. Thanks.
- get home to find that landlord wants my cat gone, claims that pets aren’t allowed. He goes or we’re out of the apartment. Fortunately, great friend offers to take kitty for me, and he’s only a minute away so I can vist anytime. But still, no cat.
- get home from dropping off kitty, my mom comes over to tell me that after 33 years of marriage she’s decided to move out. Her and my dad are trying a separation. Fuck, Fuck fuck.
Now, I know that this isn’t the most eloquent thing I’ve ever written, but if anyone feels like picking apart my writing, or anyone else’s who’s having a shitty day and just needs to vent, be my fucking guest. I hope that knowing all of the proper uses of dashes and when to use them makes you feel like a very superior person.
Thanks
AFAIK, Guin isn’t a baby, and that certainly isn’t why I’m bitching at you about this.
It’s not that I think Guin has sensitive feelings and you need to be considerate of her, I think people should stop thinking it’s okay to randomly bitch at people (yes, there are people behind your monitor) (No, not literally).
In the same vein, I agree that the PMS comment was not only uncalled for, but pretty damn tasteless.
Truthfully, from all the posts I’ve seen from you before, FUB, I thought you were a great person. I just don’t understand where this baseless vitriol comes from. I mean, seriously, calling someone a baby for semi-incorrect hyphen use?
Goodness, FUB. I posted that link as a gesture of humor. I enjoyed that thread enormously, it made me laugh. I had just finished reading it when I posted to this thread. If I had included the ::d&r:: would it have made more sense?
It just seemed to me that you were picking at nits, and using the fact that Guin posted in the pit as an opportunity to bitch away. You admitted it yourself.
Gretchen: In a world full of crappy weeks, you win. So sorry, dear. I do hope things improve, and give that kitty a hug for me. (Your grammer is exquisite, BTW.)
Guin: PunditLisa has a good point. Grad school is very expensive. Have you considered teaching? I know you study history, but to what end? Hold on to your dignity, and hold out even longer for the job that you really want. The job market may suck for the time being, but there is always a place for talented people. It can just take a while to find the right niche.
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*Originally posted by truthbot *
Gretchen: In a world full of crappy weeks, you win. So sorry, dear. I do hope things improve, and give that kitty a hug for me. (Your grammer is exquisite, BTW.)
Yeah!!! Finally I’m winning at something!!Awwwright!
And yes, kitty’s going to get lots of hugs from me (and you, too!) later on tonight. Thanks for the kind thoughts!
Me so not baby! You is poopy head!!!
sigh
Whatever. FUB, I find it amusing that you call me immature when it seems your whole beef is that I used hypens, dashes whatever improperly. Especially coming from someone with the name FireUnderpantsBoobs.
Yes, I admit my spelling is not what it’s cracked up to be. Oh the humanity. If I were as immature as you say, I would probably put dashes after each word, but I don’t have the fucking patience right now.
Good lord, I thought I was doing okay. Now I find out I’m Wildest Bill with breasts.
:rolleyes:
For what it’s worth, I used to think rather highly of you. I didn’t realize you were so goddamn anal about DASHES for crissakes. And yes, this is the Pit. I don’t WANT a ton of HUGGLES or what have you. I just want to bitch. Excuse me for not checking with you first. If you’ll give me the proper forms, madam, I will fill them out and have them on your desk by tomorrow afternoon. Jesus Christ. I thought this was a place to vent, not Grammar 101. I don’t know whether to be offended or amused. Probably the latter.
Grad school-I’m a history major. History majors are encouraged to go for their masters. Dr. Brett has encouraged me to go to Duquesne, and I do want to specialize in history. (Oh no, I used another DASH!). I’m currently interning at a local history museum. The John Heinz Regional History Center. Dr. Brett has a lot of clout, as does Dr. Jourin and the woman I’m working for could probably help me out as well.
(I’d love to my doctorate someday-if I’m smart enough. oh no, another dash!)
I guess I was in a funk the other day. I was feeling down and I just wanted to get it all out. I’m usually not that miserable, or looking for sympathy. I’m much more easy going than that. Maybe I was horny. Maybe I was lonely. HEAVEN FORBID!!!
Guin, all I gotta say is this: if you find yourself at Phillyfest (I seem to recall that you live in PA, or perhaps I am misremembering) . . .
I do indeed-Pittsburgh.
Ooops, there’s that dash again…
[sub]if someone’s gonna accuse me of being immature, well, goddammit, why disappoint them?[/sub]
To make it brief: (well, as brief as I can be…)
FUB, you did seem peevish and petty to Guin. Your reasons don’t fly with any of us. I am saying this as someone who is pretty damned oblivious most of the time to these things. And I have no axe to grind, with either of you. Just offering my opinion. And please accept my heartfelt apologies for any of my appalling grammar gaffes. I’m sure I’ve had plenty. I don’t know how you contain yourself. Oh, the offensiveness of it all…
Guin - it’ll get better. It may take longer than you’d like, but it WILL get better, on all fronts. I come from a long line of “late bloomers”. Nothing wrong with that. Good things come to those who wait. There are more late bloomers out there than you can imagine. You are not alone. So - take it easy, cheer up! You have a lot going for you. Think about it - you will know I am telling you the truth.
Ahh, no…my store is independently owned and operated…Vic doesn’t sign/stamp my paycheck. The store I work at isn’t quite as bad as some other Shop N’ Saves (it’s only 6 years old…I’m sure some other stores have mold on the shelves older than that ) and although I complain about my wages and the fact that on a 7 hour shift we get one break, I generally get along very well with most of the front end people, and the job gives me the flexibility to continue my education (math and CS major at Cal…California University of PA for those outside Western PA…long commute from Pittsburgh to the west coast
). I have to agree that Giant Eagle is probably a better store. With so many new stores (the Washington store is barely 2 years old), and so many amenities like video stores, pharmacies and self-serve checkers, they’ve put in more money into development, but they’re also going to earn a hell of a lot more too!
I always see that the Waldenbooks in Washington Crown Center needs “booksellers”. I’ve put in a couple of apps there, but they’ve never called me back (perhaps because it’s odd to see guys working at bookstores? ). The nearest Borders to me is in South Hills Village…the first “luxury” bookstore I saw (although in Erie, there were Borders and Barnes and Noble a stones throw away from each other…was lovely
)
(a) First of all, add me to the long line of men offering to smooch you until your toes curl. Heck, put me at the head of that line
(b) Other people have suggested teaching… I don’t know how things are in Pennsylvania, but in California there’s an enormous teacher shortage and they’re handing out emergency credentials left and right. (On the other hand, being a first year teacher is an incredibly demanding job, and the pay is not great.)
(c) If nothing else, keep a siff upper lip, buck up little camper, and all that…
I’m just about two years out of college with my BS(CS), making just under 60k, driving a 2001 Odyssey(king of minivans, thank-you-very-much), living in a house so big there are at least two rooms we don’t even GO INTO in the course of the average day, have a debt level less than one years salary(with only a tiny bit of that being credit card, most being college loans), have a kick-ass benefits package, and living in a very nice neighborhood(our local grocery store has a “bulk fresh seafood” area and a Supervised playland for the kids to hang out in while we shop, with monitors mounted around the store so we can still keep an eye on them, the kids love the staff there) and I STILL THINK MY LIFE SUCKS.
You see, they’re downsizing at work, my director and manager have just been cut, and we’re supposed to know by the middle of next week who the “individual contributors” who will be “let go” will be. My new director met with all of us and said he doesn’t anticipate any layoffs in the department of technical staff like me, but that’s still a very big sword cloud with some really nasty potential there. We’ve just discovered we’re expecting again, so there is another mouth I have to feed and provide for on the way. With the job market the way it is, and with my relatively low experience level, and with about 1,100 bucks a month going to debts(paying them off quick is a priority, so we’re paying well over the minimums, even on the loans), we haven’t built up much of a cushion. We’re pretty much paycheck-to-paycheck right now.
I will not get started on love life, suffice to say, marriage(as many can attest) is not a silver bullet which kills loneliness or ends sexual frustration.
Do I know how to deal with these problems? Sure, but it takes action. Constant action. Keeping my networks up would help insure I don’t end up out of a job for longer than we can handle it. Taking action on pre-natal care is important right now. Cleaning up the house and getting organized would be a great morale booster around the house. Might even lead to some tension relief between myself and my wife, which might lead to other kinds of relief. So, my course is clear. Get things on the homefront straightened out, and work, really work, to make the future more stable. Is it easy? No. Is it fun? Nope. Does it work? Yep. You’d be amazed at what simply doing basic things like putting the time it took to compose your OP into calls to temp agencies would do. It’s easy to get lost in self-pity, but really, the future is in your, and my, hands.
Steven
(who is off to the grocery store in the middle of the night because it needs to be done.)
Wow. Holy pile-on Batman!
I will refrain from any insensitivity towards guin, as it is obviously not allowed. Strangely enough in the Pit, almost every OP is met with some opposition, even a little, it is sort of expected.
I know so much about Guin, I feel like I know her. Her sister torments her, her family harrasses her, her cat troubles. It is indeed a terrible terrible situation.
At least she has a safe, warm place to sleep, a healthy intact family to care enough about her to harass and annoy her, the financial means to own and care for a beloved pet. I suppose if she didnt have those small comforts, her life would be unbearable.
Being 23 is very hard, and I feel deeply sympathetic for Guin. Having a family, friends who love you (as is clearly evident here) being a student in history, with a part time job at Kmart…
But you have no one to share it with…is that the real problem Guin? are you just lonely?
Lonely I can relate to.
My mother (who had many wise sayings) once told me that when I was feeling sorry for myself, to look around, I would see someone much worse off than I. What an awful thing to say to me, I would do that, then I wouldnt feel sorry for myself, I would feel guilty and ashamed!! What a rotten thing to do.
Examples:
I would be whining in my head about my financial difficulties, how will I find rent money? How will I pay for the new winter boots? Then I would see some poor bastard in a wheel chair, struggling to cross the road in the snow.
Lately I have been wrapped in the self pity cloak: My mom died! poor me! she didnt say good bye! she never said I love you, she was the only parent I had who gave a crap, now I am all alone with no close RL friends, no boyfriend, raising two kids who have no father, and no grandparents - POOR ME!!!
Then I had to go to the hospital on Friday to say goodbye to Louise, she is a single mom of 36 with a beautiful funny little girl of 5, she is dying of breast cancer, its all through her now, killing her slowly and painfully. Her little girl is soon to be an orphan, raised by a distant uncle she barely knows. So Moms advice worked, I felt terrible and small. Good catholic advice.
I am rambling.
I ramble alot.
I cant sleep anymore, so I am starting to drop in grades at school, I have to find a part time job too, I dont have enough money for next terms tuition, so I have to raise some funds. The kids will miss me, and my grades will suffer, and my house will be slovenly as I wont have time to clean it…
Sorry Guin that you are so unhappy, being unhappy truly sucks, but lots of people would trade places with you in a heartbeat.
Well, hell, I know that. Doesn’t mean I can’t VENT, does it?
Sheesh!
I’m tired though, of someone on the boards occassionally expressing frustration, and someone else saying, “Oh yeah, well I have so and so and so!” I hate games of “More miserable than thou.”
Like I said, I was in a funk, PMSing, etc etc. I realize things aren’t that bad-sometimes, I just need to blow off some steam.
And once again, kelli, I am truly sorry to hear about your mother.
dammit, forgot again!
Yes, I’m lonely. Very very lonely. It’s so annoying, I’m so fucking shy. I either clam up or ramble along like an idiot when I meet people. (Ask mrblue92).
Like I said Guin, lonely, I can relate to.
Everything is worse when you feel lonely, even good stuff is tainted when you are lonely.
I think too, that this time of year is the worst for people who feel alone. you are bombarded with holiday cheer crap from all angles, all of it showing family and happy couples…its no wonder there are so many suicides this time of year.
So look at it this way maybe…your life doesnt actually suck, its more like a ferrari with a flat tire.
You are a great girl Guin, you are gonna do fine. Thanks for your condolences.
(I cant for the life of me figure out why you dont have a boyfriend, if you lived near me I could set you up with lots of nice guys)