I grew up quite religious.
Part of that included the belief that swearing is offensive. And so I rarely ever swore, and then only mild cursing.
Way back in high school, a classmate thought it worth mentioning to some of the other students: “Hey, this guy won’t say fuck!”
Well, since rejecting my religion about a year ago, I find myself swearing constantly.
Not in front of others, but when no one is about and I’m just mumbling to myself (as I do), I find myself punctuating everything with “fuck”. It’s all “fucken’ this” and “fucken’ that”.
When I’m under any kind of stress in particular, I’ll let out a long string of “fuckittyfuckityfuck-fuck-fuck!!”
It’s like fucken’ Tourett’s!
Like I’m trying to let out 40 years of pent up fucks.
Has anyone else ever gone through something like this?
In my former church, kids are tought not to say dirty words because they offend god and man.
It’s the whole “Not that which goeth into the mouth defileth a man; but that which cometh out of the mouth, this defileth a man.” (Matt 15:11)
You are aware that it’s not just religion, but society in general that has deemed certain language inappropriate for polite company, regardless of religious proclivity?
What I’m saying is you’re not off the hook just because you no longer believe there’s an invisible man in the sky keeping score; when you’re out in public, even in a crowd of atheists, you should still watch your fuckin’ mouth.
That said, I believe what you’re experiencing is what everyone experiences when they find themselves out from under the watch of authority, in my own case (and I’d suspect in a lot of peoples’ cases) when I left my parents’ house and went to college. The swearing was rampant among everyone, along with all sorts of other bad behavior. You’re just getting to the party a couple decades late.
Not really what I was aiming for with the thread, but sure, why not?
Basically, I’d been struggling with my beliefs since joining the church as a kid.
I mean, I thought the principles were worthy and I wanted to believe, but I just kept running into so many things that just didn’t make sense.
To shed some light on my situation, I was Mormon. And boy-hoo, are there ever a lot of things in that church to get perplexed about if you just start questioning it! I won’t get into the nitty-gritty of it though. There is just a plethora of things that don’t sit right with me about the church. If the Mormon church is true, then god is a jerk for making so much evidence to the contrary. And I don’t want to believe in a jerky god.
I’m not smart at all, but I try to think logically about things and generally dismiss things that seem like mere superstition or crackpot. Eventually I just couldn’t keep suspending my rational thinking for the sake of believing the teachings of the church. The cognitive dissonance was overwhelming.
I actually do still believe in a god, perhaps because it has become engrained in my way of seeing the world. But I have no idea what god is now.
Maybe it’s a form of deferred youthful rebellion against your religious upbringing? your way of demonstrating to yourself and others that you have rejected your religion?
I think a lot more highly of people who don’t swear in public, around others who might be offended, and who don’t swear at other people. So I’d rather you don’t go around saying “Fuck you” or “You fucking asshole” to people. But if you want to watch the South Park movie and sing along with “Uncle Fucker” in the privacy of your own home, I see nothing wrong with that.
Further context: “‘Are you still so dull?’ Jesus asked them. 'Don’t you see that whatever enters the mouth goes into the stomach and then out of the body? But the things that come out of a person’s mouth come from the heart, and these defile them. For out of the heart come evil thoughts—murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander.” (Matthew 15:16-19)
IMHO, “dirty words” aren’t what Jesus was really talking about there. A contemptuous “Bless your heart” or a lying, manipulative “I love you” can be more offensive than the word “fuck.”
Back on topic, I’m a lot like the OP when it comes to swearing.
I very, very rarely swear in front of people. I find it coarse and low-brow. If I do end up in a situation which calls for an epithet, I’ll usually use something amusing (like, from HHG - “Zarking Photon”) or “bloody.”
However, if I’m working alone, and things aren’t going well, I will spout a stream of “fucks” like Steve Martin in Planes, Trains, and Automobiles…