I truly cannot imagine, running coach… accept my deepest condolences and do take care of yourself.
I am so sorry. It is beautiful you were able to honour her wishes, even though it must have been so hard to say goodbye.
I have nothing original to add, but my thoughts echo many of those above. Peace to you.
I am so sorry to hear of your wife’s passing. My deepest condolences.
I’m so, so sorry to hear this. You have my sympathies. I’m not good at this, I don’t know the right things to say. But you are a favorite poster of mine so it’s especially heartbreaking for me to hear.
I’m very sorry for your loss, I know how hard it is.
I’m with you.
Dang man I’m so sorry to hear that. It’s an increasingly rare thing these days to have a marriage last so long, it’s a testament to the love you and your wife shared.
You are one of those names on this message board that is immediately familiar and makes this place seem more of a close-knit community than the average message board.
There are some things in life that just plain suck and there’s no easy way to deal with it, and no escaping it. Cry your tears and with time I hope you will heal and find joy again.
several years ago, my wife put together a bag of important papers, life insurance papers, prepaid funeral papers, etc. Mixed in were her name change and just random bits and pieces, birth certificates, passports(hers), our marriage license. It turns out my baptism certificate was in there.
Now, while our birthdays were a week apart, she was 18 years older.
When I looked at my baptism certificate, I found I was baptized on her birthday.
My deep condolences to you, Running Coach.
Probably an automatic falling back onto the script after the shock of hearing of the death. Been there, done that, got the stinkin’ T-shirt. When DesertWife died, one item overlooked was the payment on her car. About ten days after – the day of her memorial service, in fact – the credit union called and the young-sounding rep asked if Ms Wife could come to the phone. “That’s not possible,” I managed to say and the rep launched into how it was really important that she speak to her right away, getting on my very last nerve. “It’s not possible 'cause she’s dead!” I snapped. There were several shocked exclamations, a few moments of silence, then the sup was on the line. I apologized, saying it was a rough time. She sympathized then said there was insurance that would pay off the loan balance and offered her condolences.
It was nine months from her diagnosis of ALS to her passing. Like you said, there is never enough time. It’s been 25 years and I still miss her every day. Hugs to you and her other survivors.
Sorry to hear. Please feel free to share any stories about her you may have.
I’m so sorry, and I am happy you had the strength to abide by her wishes. My father and mother had different views on it, but when it came time, my father did not insist on anything extraordinary for her. She died peacefully the way she wanted. I still can’t believe she died, but it gives me comfort that she did it her way and he respected that.
After my mom died, I was finishing a quilt she had started for my cousin, and Gulf Coast Highway kept coming around on the shuffle.
And when she dies
she says she’ll catch some blackbird’s wing
And she will fly away to heaven
Come some sweet blue bonnet spring
Coach,
I cannot bring myself to say I’m so sorry.
Maybe its the Irish in me, but I must offer
my deepest and most sincere congratulations.
You two obviously enjoyed four decades of devoted love,
faced the challenges of life together, and I’ll wager lived the life you
two dreamed of when still young, strong,invulnerable and clueless.
The love of your life was finally called home relatively gently,
with minimal pain and from what you have said, without the terrible loss
of self so many must endure.
And in her final moments, she knew, she knew to the depth of
her soul and the bottom of her heart that she had been loved
and was loved to her final moment by the one person she loved above all others.
You, sir, are a man among men, and you have done by your lady
in a way that I can only pray I will be strong enough to stand as tall,
if I am fated to face a page of life like yours.
I celebrate the WE that was, the WE that lives on, in the hearts and
minds of you and yours. May you find peace in knowing the fullness
of loving well.
Godspeed-
M
Second post in four and a half years?
Dude, you need to post more.
That was lovely.
Understood.
My condolences, my sympathies, and my best wishes for you - you took care of her to the end, now be sure to take care of yourself.
Oh no, I am so sorry for your loss.
i’m sorry for your loss. it’s good you had a wonderful life together.
I am sorry to hear of your loss.
Just re-posting as I can’t think of anything better to say.
Thanks everyone for the support. All the business is done except what needs a death certificate to complete.
The cats have been squabbling a bit and sleeping in her room at times besides being more clingy than usual.