Nope. The person with the best laywer loses the least. The only people who actually win are the lawyers. Am I right, Campion or Bricker?
I’m going to reserve all of the observations I’d like to make, and just say that prior experience on your part (assuming that your version of events is reasonably accurate) indicates that you are not a good judge of what is fair and equitable when it comes to your soon-to-be ex-wife, and nothing you’ve said here alters that opinion. You need someone to represent you legally to make certain that you are getting a fair agreement. It’s one thing to gnaw off your arm and abandon all furniture when it’s just you by yourself, but you have dependents who are relying on you to make good decisions for them, and you have an obligation to look out for their best interests. [ol][li]Get a lawyer.[/li][li]You don’t have to be nasty or vengeful about it, but establish what you expect, get it in writing, and stick to your guns.[/li][li]Establish and document an agreement regarding custody, residency, and responsibility for the children, pronto, that is in their best interests. (Do you seriously think that full-time residency with your ex-wife and her live-in boyfriend of “three to four weeks” is a good environment for your children? 'Cause that strikes me as fertile ground for years of emotional problems to me.)[/li][li]You’ve made every effort to reconcile with her, and she’s chosen to leave and has already hooked up with some guy who she’s living with. YOU…DO…NOT…OWE…HER…ANY…FINANCIAL…SUPPORT. Period. I predict that your lawyer will make this point to you within the first five minutes of discussing the situation.[/li][li]Get help. Seek counselling. No one in this type of situation is capable of making good decisions without an outside perspective, and your past behavior demonstrates an excessive willingness to be fleeced and immolated. You need someone–in real life, not on a message board–to give you in independent perspective on that.[/li][/ol]If for no other reason, do this for your children. Everything you describe about your wife indicates that she doesn’t have their best interests at stake; thus, it becomes your obligation. They’re what you should feel responsible for, not her.
End of sermon.
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