My wife has had enough of our marriage after 10 years. Admittedly, it has not been a good one and we are both to blame. We have two beautiful young boys who I feel would be devastated by our split.
We have tried our best with counselling etc.
I am not a quitter and I feel that there is too much to lose for everyone if we split. She feels that it would benefit everyone if we all start over.
The thing is, she wants out and I don’t. This raises several important questions.
- How much do I have to participate in the whole thing? For example, she wants me to tell the kids. I said that I will be there but the words will have to come out of her mouth.
- I think she’s looking for me to leave but I love our house. Why should I leave when I don’t want to go.
- She has already mentioned shared custody but I don’t want my kids bounced back and forth between two homes. Also, I know she can’t care for the kids with her schedule.
Right now, I’m sleeping in the basement out of consideration for her. She was not mentioned the word “divorce” and says “she’s not sure she loves me” but clearly her actions speak otherwise and she seems to have no interest in being nice for the purposes of any sort of reconcilation.
She has not told any of her family about our situation and she was not happy when I told my family.
In truth, if it weren’t for the kids, this would be a no brainer for me.
By the way, I spend far more time with the kids than she does. That makes a difference to me.
Any comments would be appreciated.