Ditto. I’ve checked this thread three times the past half-hour.
I want to know about the chickens, dammit!
Well, here’s a fun fact. They get peevish when you refer to them as nuggets!
Superhal, you are acting in an idiotic fashion. That chicken you think is so special is nothing. Both pictures are of chicken cooked over live coals. No gas in either one.
Where do you live that you cannot light a pile of charcoal and cook a piece of meat? Really, where do you live? And even if it was Gods gift to freshly char grilled chicken, after a couple months in the freezer, it’s going to be a horrible disgusting mess, rubbery and oddly mushy all at the same time from ice crystals breaking down the meat fibers. She did you a favor, you should thank her.
You remind me of Charlie Sheen.
The chickens themselves have been explained; SuperHal’s true feelings behind said chickens, though, remains intractable.
He’s also failed to respond to several queries about whether he asked his wife why she thawed both chickens, and what her response was! I’m thinking if she knows her way around a kitchen, she may very well have realized that just staying frozen for many more months was not going to do the chicken any favors.
Or else she simply made a mistake and life goes on. It’s not like she gave away a family heirloom.
Quite possible. It’s just that, if I specifically requested my husband not do something, and he turned right around and did it, I’d ask him why. Either he’d have a good reason, or he made a mistake; he certainly wouldn’t do it out of malice. At any rate, as someone else said earlier, very few things in a marriage are really worth fighting about. Seriously, my husband and I have been together 26 years, and I can count how many fights we’ve had on the fingers of one hand. Most of the time, if one of us is angry, it’s a pretty clear-cut case of the other one doing something boneheaded, in which case, the party who is in the wrong offers a sincere apology (which carries with it the implication that you’re going to try hard not to do that again), or we work it out by talking about it, or we just shrug it off. Most shit is not worth fighting about.
Exactly. I wasn’t suggesting that he shouldn’t ask. That should be first step. Unless the answer is “I did it specifically to hurt you”, move on.
Superhal, my advice to you is:
- Don’t fight about the chickens. The chickens are far less important than a good relationship with your partner.
If you disagree, then please, please, let your partner go.
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Don’t fight, period. If you want a good relationship, you need to have serious talks where both partners can depend on and trust in, that there will not be a fight before they start.
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You desperatly need to have a discussion about your relationship and communication with your wife - but NOT about what she did wrong by defrosting both chickens. Instead, YOU need to ask HER if she’s happy with your relationship.
Because, unless there’s a hearing problem or something, the fact that she’s ignoring your wish can mean:
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you are giving her orders on how to do the cooking; she resents this, but doesn’t trust you enough to discuss this, so she uses passive-aggressive methods (I know how to cook, dammit)
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you aren’t intending to give orders, but you only articulate your own wishes, and never listen or ask for what she wants; and because of lack of trust, she doesn’t tell you out loud what an egoist you are behaving as
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something else, but similar.
So in short, you need to build a trust by listening to her, taking her and her wishes and emotions serious; to never ever abuse the trust when she shares something with you by telling you (abusing would be: she tells you how as a girl she was afraid of spiders, and next week, you bring home a fake spider to frighten her with; she confides in you that she doesn’t know all 50 states, and next week you ridicule her in front of friends as dumb … that kind of thing. A lot of men do that automatically, to use weak points as ammunition when the discussion gets dirty … well, nothing breaks trust more quickly and thoroughly).
Once you have established the trust and truely respect your partner as equal, and not just a household robot, then you can work on respecting each others wishes.
Assuming you are sincere. If you just want a servant who obeys your wishes to the letter, get one by paying her a wage, and let your wife go - hopefully she can find a nicer person.
It means to go in through the beak door.
In my grocery stores, chicken goes on sale on a regular schedule that is is lot faster than once a year. So I join the legions waiting to hear where you got these chickens and why they are so special, and did unexpected company show up that your wife knew about but you didn’t? And the process of defrosting takes a long time…why didn’t you just put one back in the freezer yourself?
Edited to say, sorry, didn’t realize the thread had two pages, missed the comment about special charcoalwhatever…
Sounds like Ol’ StoneButt’s developing a bad attitude. You should beat her until she gets her head right. If the beatings don’t work in a timely manner, you may be to kill her and get a new one that’s less defective. I mean, you can’t just go around thawing a man’s barbecue chicken–that was a hanging offense in the Old West, right up there with horse thieving and cattle rustling.
That’s what you were wanting to hear, right? That she did a Very Bad Thing and was 100% in the wrong and you’re absolutely justified in being upset? Well, there you go. Hope it makes you feel better.
Mind you, I say all this as someone who brings a cooler on visits to my parents to restock our freezer with barbecue and still holds up the theft of a Peep 16 years ago as emblematic of everything that was wrong with that person. I understand the shock and outrage of it all. But even when you’re 19 and full of PMS-induced homesickness and have 3 tests in 2 days and are saving the last pink Peep from the box your daddy went to two stores to buy specially for you as an after-test treat and it’s outright stolen…it’s still not worth fighting about.
… from frozen grilled chickens to stolen marshmallow chicks. Interesting circle.
<Lion King> “… the cirrrrrrrcle of liiiiiiiiiiiiffffffffffffeeeeeeee…” </Lion King>
Even if there was extra good relationship with your spouse at the store, they’d always be out and it would **never **go on sale.
SuperHal, this is what disturbs me. Freudian said she was skeeved by your use of the terms “comply” and “lie”. You dismissed that paragraph as being wrong. But you did use those terms, so how was she wrong? And if this is how you are with your wife, no wonder you have problems.
Am I the only person here who’s surprised this is genuinely about chickens? I thought the OP was some kind of metaphor for a serious issue that Superhal didn’t want to discuss with the internet. Because surely no one would actually get that annoyed over thawing chickens, right?
I could, I’m sure, but I get wicked PMS sometimes. (Assuming Hal isn’t lying about what is or isn’t swingin’ between his legs, that excuse is right out for him.)
I would think that would be risking salmonella, wouldn’t it? Or would the fact that it’s already cooked make a difference?
But you forget – it’s special charcoal!
I think us feminazis scared him away again.
I love that this is about chicken. Kudos to the SDMB for turning a dumb OP question into such a great read. I am so entertained.
That said, I agree with MikeG that the chickens in the photos both have charcoal under them. This would have made much more depressing regular chicken. Does SuperHal live in some super lonesome area that hosts no summer fairs? This February chicken stand can’t be the only barbeque in town.