You could argue that undergoing the one cycle of IVF that I did to produce my daughter (in total 6 weeks and around $2000 including government subsidies, male factor infertility both of us un our early 30s) has actually benefited my country. The Australian population is aging fast, and we will need adults of working age in the next 20-30 years in order to help support them:
Barring an unprecedented change in fertility rates, the age structure of the population is likely to stabilise with a far higher proportion of older Australians.
To the OP, the only substantial negative effect we were warned about was a condition called Ovarian hyperstimulation syndromewhich only affects women doing IVF. In the most severe cases it can cause death, but women are carefully monitored to avoid this.
I’ve not read anything to suggest that IVF babies are at a significantly greater risk of genetic defects - this recent article suggests that IVF does not carry excessive risks although there is a slight increased risk of premature birth and of babies with low birth weight for their gestational age (my baby was about average, born 40+3).
Many of the people who need the treatment have either had a condition since they were young which affects fertility (endometriosis, PCOS, tilted uterus, scarred fallopian tubes, varicoceles etc) or the cause is unknown. Many of these conditions may not appear in the next generation. For example, the first IVF baby now has her own child who was conceived naturally.
Does your friend also believe that people should not have the ability to restrict their fertility in the other direction either? Should people who are great at spawning children be encouraged to do this in Duggar-like fashion?
It does smart when people unaffected by infertility are quick to blow off someone else’s life choices. I’m sure the word was not carefully chosen, but I’m a little insulted that Cat Whisperer is ‘peeved’ that my family has been completed this way, when I make no judgement about how she regards her own family choices. What other medical treatment should we deny ourselves because it doesn’t meet others’ standards? Adoption is not an easy option here (much more expensive, and a 5+ year journey). We only intended to undergo IVF for a year - perhaps 4-5 cycles at most, and were planning how we would be happy without a child to raise, if that had been our future.
Never mind! I’m off to snuggle my delicious 6 month old who’s just learned how to hug and kiss back.