The first says that the word was used by black Americans in the early part of this century to refer to the clitoris. The word gained wider usage after the R&B record “The Nitty-Gritty” was released in 1963. Here’s my cite: http://whusfm.saup.uconn.edu/SoulExpress/soulbio3.htm
The second says that the words refers to slave owners systematically raping the women and girls on a slave ship. By the time they got the the bottom of the ship, the slaves were nit-ridden and grit-covered. This one came from a police officer, who was told while on a course that the derivation of the word made it very offensive to the British black community.
My UL detector is flashing wildly at the second one. Of course, if it’s a widely believed UL, then the word is still offensive. (q.v “squaw”)
I’d like to know the correct origin of the phrase.
The origin I heard was that it was of Black origin, but did not refer to the clitoris, but to the innermost reaches of the vagina.
I seem to recall having read that there were some old ribald Black blues sort of songs in the early-to-mid 1900s with the word “nitty-gritty” in the title, but I don’t know any off-hand. Lyrics in those songs might provide a much better clue.