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Hamlet, I started out with the position you are now espousing, and it took a six- or seven-page thread to bring me around. Others can, I think, be more effective advocates of the position than I am even now…
…but I’ll give it a shot.
The word “marriage” has enormous social, cultural, and political implications wholly aside from the mere sterile consideration of what it means in the government context. For the government to withhold the word “marriage” when discussing same-sex recognized unions and use it when discussing opposite-sex recognized unions is to give the former a ‘second-class’ status. Even though you cannot point to a specific legal right or remedy that would be lacking from the civil union, the mere fact that the government, the entity that represents us all, society as a whole, chooses to call the two types of unions different names suggests that one is different from the other.
And there is no good reason for it. The word “marriage” is used in all sorts of contexts: the merger of two companies might be described as a marriage of the two sets of resources and core competencies, for example. If it is fairly used in such a general context, representing the union of two entities, why is it not correctly used to represent a government-sanctioned same-sex union?
That’s my take on it. There are others here that carried the banner far more eloquently than I.
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I think the concur/dissent in the New Jersey case does a good job of explaining it also:
"In their presentation to the Court, they speak of the deep and symbolic significance to them of the institution of marriage. They ask to participate, not simply in the tangible benefits that civil marriage provides – although certainly
those benefits are of enormous importance – but in the intangible benefits that flow from being civilly married. …
By those individual and personal statements, plaintiffs express a deep yearning for inclusion, for participation, for the right to marry in the deepest sense of that word. When we say that the Legislature cannot deny the tangible benefits of marriage to same-sex couples, but then suggest that “a separate statutory scheme, which uses a title other than marriage,” is presumptively constitutional, ante at ___ (slip op. at 7), we demean plaintiffs’ claim. What we “name” things matters, language matters.
We must not underestimate the power of language. Labels set people apart as surely as physical separation on a bus or in school facilities. Labels are used to perpetuate prejudice about differences that, in this case, are embedded in the law. By excluding same-sex couples from civil marriage, the State declares that it is legitimate to differentiate between their commitments and the commitments of heterosexual couples. Ultimately, the message is that what same-sex couples have is not as important or as significant as “real” marriage, that such lesser relationships cannot have the name of marriage."
I think it is the same idea you are expressing also, and I agree with it. What chaps my hide is, in an effort to make their ruling more palatable to the populace, the majority allowed for civil unions instead of “marriage.” There is, to my eye, no LEGAL difference between the two, but one of deep social meaning and acceptance. I guess that it is that deep social meaning and acceptance that some people so want to deny homosexual couples, even if they have to give them civil rights.