I have to say that my dentist is pretty good. Better than my last one, but I think that’s just because he’s been out of school for only a few years, and no doubt learned all the modern painless techniques. My old dentist graduated in the 1950s, and I don’t believe that he kept up with the times. Nice guy though, and did try, but painful on occasion.
I have to say that there is something that strikes me as unethical to get you numb and hooked up to a variety of tubes and equipment, only to stop in the middle of the procedure and ask you about payment. That could have and should have been discussed before any work started–that way, if you declined based on cost, there would have been no charge (or perhaps a small one for the dentist’s time, but not as big as it would be for the necessary work). You also would have had the option to shop around for another dentist who might do it more inexpensively, or at least for one who would bill like your old dentist.
I’d recommend getting in touch with the local dental association and reporting this dentist to their ethics committee or watchdog. This isn’t the kind of thing that will get his license to practice pulled, but it is the kind of thing that the association should know about. Especially if they run a referral service, it seems to me that they would want to know about this, even if just to warn prospective patients about potentially expensive situations they cannot get out of once work starts.
Thankfully, I know ahead of time about my dentist’s payment methods–he will fill out all the forms so you can pursue your own claim against the insurance, but he will not do anything more. So I take my chequebook, pay him on the spot (although if it will be for something more expensive than a checkup and cleaning, like a filling, he tells me first, and I decide whether to proceed based on how much I can write a cheque for that day), and make an insurance claim later.