I think one can define a ratuonale for a rape exception which does not denigrate women. But I find it strangely difficult to explain or construct a workable analogy for. So I ask that I be given the “benefit of the doubt” in outlining my reasoning, with no assumptions regarding my underlying motivations.
First, to help construct a parallel, let us examine the role of the male. Under present law, if he begets a child, he assumes a duty of care toward that child, to provide for its support until its 18th birthday, (The “until” date may vary for a variety of reasons, from his paternal rights and duties being terminated by adoption to until the child graduates from college; age 18 is a useful default “until” date.) Legally it makes no difference whether he is a happily married man rejoicing that their previous infertility is ended or a whether he would prefer the fetus be aborted; if he does choose to takehe34 risk of begetting a child, he has a duty of care toward it. He may take steps to reduce th risk of entering into potential fatherhood, by refraining from penile-vaginal intercourse, various means of contraception, etc., but when the rubber meets the road, if he begat that child he did assume that duty of care. (Personally I feel he also owes the child a duty of fatherhood, in the sense of nurturing male parenting, but the courts do not see fit to place that obligation on him.)
Likewise a woman choosing to enter into sexual intercourse assumes a duty of care towards any potential offspring that my result. As with the man her emotional state towards the conceptus is irrelevant. And note that (1) this does not presuppose personhood, just as a lawyer’s fiduciary duty toward a not-yet-born beneficiary of a trust or the paqternal duty of the man who begat the conceptus is not dependent on its present personhood – either it is a person (the Religious Right view) or it is a rapidly differentiating mass of tissue that will ceteris paribus become a person at birth (an embryological perspective)’ and (2) she is not strictly obliged to carry that fetus to term. In an ideal world of Bujold uterine replicators or safe and easy embryo/placental transplants, she would have options not presently available. Andf she has the same options available to the man to eliminate or reduce the risk of pregnancy/ I see no shame or condemnation in a pregnancy, only a duty of care towards a potential human life that must be dealt with.
Note that I have asserted a duty of care towards something that both man and woman assumed the risk of causing, with options available to them to eliminate or reduce that risk. In rape, whether forcible, coercive, or statutory, that element of mature choice is absent. In addition, the younger victims of statutory rape may not be able to carry a child to term, either at all or without grave risk to their ability to conceive and bear children later in life.
A “choice” forced on one or made under duress is no choice in reality. And we do not oblige children and adolescents to be self-supporting adults. You need not undertake a duty you did not freely choose to undertake, understanding the potential risks involved.