How very interesting to read all those comments about how I couldn’t possibly a woman and/or a single parent and/or older than 17. LOL!!!
People, your stereotypes are hanging out! You think you are so smart when you just buy into the status quo and spout it left and right. What is your idea of a grown-up single parent??? Someone angelic, girly, compassionate, someone like all those schlepps that people call heroes?
It’s people who have these pre-conceived notions who have the growing up to do, not I. But, really, I feel complitmented. The first few years I was a single parent, I was struggling hard. No, wait, don’t well up yet with Admiration – not struggling in the sense that the brainwashed would instantly assume, and become all understanding and encouraging (barf). I was struggling hard to make people understand that all those angelic stereotypes don’t apply to me and never will!!!
In RL it is a lot harder to convince people of that, because they don’t want to hear it. It scares them to see a single adult female with child who so completely rails against the rules of being a goody-two-shoes survivor or whatever bullshit, and gets away with it. As I have said earlier in this topic, they would always deliberately twist my words when I said, “don’t call me hero and all that bullshit”, and say “oh, don’t be so MODEST”. At least a humble, overly modest person in that “Situation” (another word I hate when applied in certain cases – it’s loaded) is something they could deal with. They could dish out a little much needed "encouragement. A totally rebellious fuck who goes against every label society tries to slap on me is something scary.
Secretly they envied me for daring to be non-conformist.
As for the person who mentioned my child – he grew up hearing all the bullshit, and he thinks about it the same way I do. In classroom discussions he thinks completely out of the box, and teachers have called him a genius, an enigma, and someone with amazing analytical insight for his age.
People, broaden your horizons. First of all, change your ideas of what a woman/adult/parent/single parent should be pigeonholed in. YOu have a whole lot to learn about real people. There are many of us out here who don’t fit the stereotypes. Many conform and put their true beliefs on the backburner, because they think that it is vital in today’s world to go with the crowd or end up alone. Well, friends who only like me when I give up my true feelings and conform to their opinions just so they won’t feel threatened, can go fuck themselves. Those are not true friends. I don’t conform for anybody.
