My 3 month old son had a weird butt crack when he was born. Babies are crinkly and stuff anyway, so I eyeballed it a bit but kept my concerns to myself until his two month check up when it still looked the same. I showed his doctor and he was very careful not to say anything definitive but advised that we just keep an eye on his gross motor movements and report any changes.
A couple weeks later he had an episode of nystagmus* so I brought him to my own doctor, mostly because his doctor was off but also because my doctor would have been his doctor too except he took off to Korea for a baby of his own right before my due date. I like him a bunch and trust his opinion even more. So while we were there I said, “Hey, check out his butt crack and tell me what you think.”
I’d have to go to Children’s for an official diagnosis, but the popular opinion is that he has spina bifida occulta. It doesn’t seem to affect him at all. Bowel and bladder are fine, lower extremity movement is fine, his reflexes are all intact, etc. He’s perfect except for a triangle shaped dimple just north of his butt crack.
He’ll go for his next well baby check/immunizations in a couple weeks. I can request a referral whenever I want to but I’m going to face to face with his doctor before I make up my mind. And right now my mind is saying, “Well, why bother?” My husband is deferring to me.
So. Pros to getting a diagnosis: ??? Cons: Could it impact his life later? E.g. if he wants to join the military (he comes from a long line of proud Marines), is he going to be able to if that’s in his record? If the answer to that is no he would not, is it unethical to withhold information that would otherwise disqualify him? Even if the defect doesn’t actually affect him at all?
Sigh. What do you think? What are the pros?
- Several episodes over the course of the day, but it was just that ONE DAY; I’ve noticed nothing since, so WTF. Not that I’m bitching. No more, please!