(I’m putting this here in IMHO because I’d like to hear your stories of high anxiety moments, and I’d like advice if you have any.)
Ever get the shaking fears? I got them something awful last night.
Here’s the situation:
I’m 23 and I currently live in Silver Spring, MD with my best friend. I work full-time and she’s a grad student. Next September, she is transferring to another university in Indiana. I will be staying in this area and will need to find a new apartment in August.
I’m also a fairly religious person (an ardent Catholic, as someone on the board once called himself), and so is my roommate.
The two of us had been praying about her transfer. After she was accepted and went to visit the campus and returned confident that this new school was the right place for her, I was pretty cool with the situation. I figured this was God’s plan for her (she’s going for her PhD in philosophy, and the new school has one of the best philosophy programs in the country), and since He’s taking care of her, He would take care of me, too.
I had a few moments of anxiety, but my only worry was finding an affordable apartment close to my job (I work in Bethesda :eek: ). I felt pretty confident that everything would work out and I’d be okay.
Until last night.
My roommate and I were talking about all sorts of things, and I casually mentioned that I had been entertaining thoughts of moving to No. Virginia. She began to tell me, almost in lecture-fashion, that she thought I was making a big mistake by staying in this area by myself, that I would be very unhappy and I wouldn’t be able to do it (whatever that means).
I was startled, and irritated. I told her I didn’t think that at all – I already have a job here, I know the area pretty well, I lived by myself in college, etc. I also don’t want to move closer to her or my family, because I know that it would be hard for my job to replace me, at least until next year, because of the projects I’m involved in and the big project that I have to work on in the summer. She told me she thought my reasoning was “weird” and that she didn’t buy it.
I left the room at this point, because I was getting angry. A few minutes later, she came in to talk to me and apologize. She admitted that she felt awkward about leaving me (we’ve been best friends since grade school). I calmed down, and we began to talk of other things. Eventually, the conversation turned to a woman we know, who had been sexually abused by her father when she was a child. My roommate told me that this woman had confided to her that as a child she had prayed that her father would stop abusing her, but the abuse didn’t stop until she left the house at 18.
After this, I went to bed, and that’s when the fear hit me.
What if I can’t find an apartment? What if I can’t take care of myself on my own and something happens to me, like a mugging or worse? And then it got worse…if God wouldn’t help a little girl from being raped by her own father, how could I trust that He would help me? How do I even know that I’m not praying to empty air? What if there is no God?
This doubt made me feel very guilty – I had just been reading about St. Therese of Lisieux and what she said about lack of trust wounding Christ through to the heart. But I couldn’t help it! I was scared, and I couldn’t talk myself down. I cried until 2 am, slept until 4:30, cried until 8 am, then hauled myself to my office so I could search the internet for apartment listings and write this post. I was planning to go to Confession this afternoon anyway, so I’m going to talk to my priest about this, and hopefully I’ll calm down.
Does this ever happen to any of you – not necessarily a faith crisis, but a huge overwhelming wave of anxiety that threatens to drown you, with no relief in sight? How do you make the fear go away?
Also, anybody know of some cheap, safe apartments in Montgomery County?