So yeah, I kinda got my days mixed up and I now have two dates for this Friday. A little back ground. Date number one is this girl who works at my friends job who when she saw me just HAD to give me her number. SHE is also divorced because her husband “wasn’t on her level sexually.” She hasn’t been with anyone in two years, and as far as I know she’s primed for a good time.
Date number two is a friend of mine for about three years now, who I’ve wanted to date for about ohhh three years or so She’s been out of the major relationship of her life with her on again/off again boyfriend for about 3 months now and it seems finally dead. Last weekend after I walked her home from a party we went to (along with another friend - more on her later), she gave a non-committal answer about us going out later. Later (after we made the date) she wanted to make sure it was just as friends.
Now, MY best good friend who lives in Miami told me to drop Date number two, date focus on date number one, save my money yadda yadda yadda. I seriously don’t know why I tell her such things-- I mean really.
My OTHER friend told me and I QUOTE: "Good luck. Eat your Wheaties. Wouldn’t it be funny if both decided that was the night you got lucky and you had to leave one to meet the other? I sincerely hope that happens to you, you dog. "
The friend that introduced me to date #1 basically told me to nail her fiercely.
The friend that went me and date #2 told me that there isn’t a snow ball chance in hell of her getting with me. She is another one I wonder why I even talk to about these things.
Don’t I have the best friends?
Anyway, I want the straight dope on this situation. Should I A Be the dog, or B Do the marathon thing and go see both.
Now date #1 is just a given. The question is do I still go forward with date #2.
Keeping in mind I think date #2 is feeling me out, in a get to know me better as a guy way.
Speaking as a woman (which, by a delightful coincidence, I actually am), I can tell you that the scenario – if woman B ever found out – would be a total dealbreaker for her. A guy who went out with another woman just to get laid, at the same time he’s saying to me “I think we could have a real relationship here” – no fuckin’ way (pun intended).
I agree, change one of them. I have a date this Thursday (woo!) and another woman wanted to meet as well. I told her I had other plans and we will reschedule at a later date.
I’m sure we could have met for coffee at 5 and that would have given me plenty of time to get ready for the one at 8 but I wouldn’t take the chance. What if the 5:00 turned out to be The Perfect Woman? Even in that case I would feel terrible cancelling a date at such a late time.
First, I have a major case of the giggles after reading the google ads. They kinda nailed this thread good.
Now, for seriousness. Who did you ask out first? IMHO, the one you asked out first is the one you keep the date with. I’m pretty sure Miss Manners and my mother would agree on this. You could always tell the other one that you found out you have a prior commitment that you can’t get out of and ask her forgiveness profusely while asking if she’d consider going out with you on another day. I really think the best thing is to keep the date with the first one you asked out.
No shit? And here was me back in my daing days trying to compliment her eyes, or begin a conversation, or even buy her a drink. You mean all I had to do was say, “I surely could have banged anyone here in this place, and I picked you :wiggles eyebrows:”?
It sounds like you have real feelings for date #2, but date #1 is almost a guaranteed lay. Go on date #1, have a good time, and see where things go (i.e., shag her rotten.) Don’t try to go out with date #2 and then ditch her for date #1 later in the evening. It’ll just be stressful and worrying. What if you and date #2 are getting along smashingly and you don’t feel like moving on to date #1? What then? Best to avoid the whole situation entirely.
The preceeding advice is worth everything you paid for it.
Hmmmmmmmmmm THis has possibilities. however, I really need to see some more options here. aamco might be on to something too. C’mon guys if I’m gonna cancel it has to be tonight, other wise thats just rude ya know?
Not to just harp on the subject my friend, but, seriously, you had to have asked one out before the other. Keep the date with the first one you asked out and beg the forgiveness of the second one and ask if you can see her again and set a date. All you have to do is say you already had a prior commitment when you asked her out and feel horrible for having done so. Heck, we all do screw ups like that from time to time.
Ok, so that’s just my .02, but it seems the right thing to do.
I Think we’re missing the part of the story where I’m an egotistical bastard. Seriously if you told me the earth did in fact revolve around the sun insted of me i’d have to stab you. All answers to this question should bare that in mind.
Seriously though. I’m really just trying to be talked out of doing the double date thing casue it’s a really shameless thing to do, which is why I want to do it.
Dude, this situation is RIPE for classic sitcommy goodness. Invite both to the same restaurant, at the same time. Spend all night bouncing from one to the other, keeping each unaware of the other’s existence. For bonus points, wear something different to each date- change clothes between each table.
hold on a second. first of all, how much tail do you get?
if you walk down the street and you’re getting poon thrown at you, i suppose go for girl number 2.
otherwise, beat it up at least once in the night.
the way i see it, number one is a must. the dilemma comes to number two.
go for one night. besides, after the first one under your belt, you won’t be so eager and it can develop. or the exact opposite. you can pounce on her knowing you got yourself some earlier.
either way, you be happy, and isn’t that what we’re all about?
think about it, my man…
…who would john holmes do?
just…go with the wadd.
god, i’m 24. i shouldn’t be able to reference john holmes in ANYTHING.
i will now nail the girl down the hall and then gouge out my eyeballs with a salad fork. yes, in that order, too.
DUDE! I could pay the dude in the bathroom to keep a stall for me, with my different outfits in there. change my cologne every time too! it would so rule.
though, I’d have to change my last name to Tripper.
She’s been out of the major relationship of her life with her on again/off again boyfriend for about 3 months now and it seems finally dead. Last weekend after I walked her home from a party we went to (along with another friend - more on her later), she gave a non-committal answer about us going out later. Later (after we made the date) she wanted to make sure it was just as friends.
